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*arrisa3636
writes:I had this teacher, Senior year, (08') and as the year went on my feelings changed for him and I am pretty sure his changed toward me. He would say he loved me and that I will always have a special place in his heart. Or he would say..I love you, I just want you to know that. I am turning 19 and he is 25. He told me at the end of the year, that he did like me, and hoped that my future husband, realizes how lucky he really is. ( that was strange..Im not getting married anytime soon?? I was thinking..why would he say that to me?)He had this pic. of us from Graduation, framed in his office. He would make these remarks like, once I saw him in the hallway and he came out of one of the classes and told this kid, "hey you need to fix yourself up, and look decent... because there is a beautiful girl in the hallway. He told me," I talked about you to all my classes first day of school..and.Actually..I bring you up a lot." We talked alittle via E-mail, about college and stuff..and he said "I am so proud of you, and not just w/ academics...but I am really proud of the woman you are becoming. I want you to know... Every time I look at the pic. of you and I here in the office...it just makes me smile".Last year, we didnt really get along, I mean we bumped heads about everything! It was like we both kind of grew on eachother. We sort of made each other change for the better. He told me he feels that he has become a better person, teacher, everything because of some of the things we went through during the year. When we are together now, that I am not his student..he does treat me diffrent..not like a student, but its like we both flirt with eachother and hint things but niether of us will make any moves..Idk what to do..maybe he has not made any moves b/c he is not intrested in me like that..but I mean..c'mon..with all the things that have gone on between us...I just would not understand that he doesnt have feelings for me...=( I went to my (former) school's game, because they had a special things for Alumni...and I was walking the track with a friend, and all of a sudden, I hear someone say " ohh so whats this? You cant say hello to me anymore?" And I turned around and it was him and he was like " hey...what you doing?" and he gave me a hug and I was like..I am not doing anything, just here for the game and stuff", and he introduced me to the ppl he was with and didnt even akowledge my friend (who he taught as well).. And he was like..yeah, this is Marrisa, she is my former student. My friend was like..well thats kind of weird, she was like..he introduces anyone he is with to YOU, all the time.What do I do here? My friends/family already pick on me about him..they always say..ohh we know you got that teacher wrapped around your finger..you know the ring finger on your left hand! My head confuses me, but my heart wont let me forget him. I thought over summer I would but when we ran into eachother after summer, I still felt the same. Even when I am with guys, more around my age..I think about him..and I know its wrong to even start things with a "Former teacher"..but I dont know what to do..how to GET OVER HIM..if I must...PLEASE HELP!!!
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reader, marrisa3636 +, writes (5 January 2009):
marrisa3636 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYea I think he is sending me Mixed Signals and its driving me crazzy! I mean, He does not come off like a shy person, at all...when you first meet him. He doesnt ever seem to care what anyone else thinks...so thats why I just cant seem to believe that he would be this shy to me.( if that is even the case here) I mean we were together almost 24/7 last year. Sure, we bumped heads a lot, but we also grew on each other..and we are so comfortable with each other, at least I thought we were. I guess I dont know. And its not like he "hides" me you know. He has that photo of the two of us framed in his office, (that he shares with another teacher.) I couldnt believe it, when I came to visit this year, he was like..you have not seen my office, go up and take a look, you definitely have to see whats up there! I was like...OMG...that looks alittle strange..lol..I was flattered and shocked at the same time. I seem to have taken over a little corner in the office. He has a bunch of little things, that we would joke around with and stuff..all in that corner..lol
Although I was flattered..I also thought...Ok..well..we are not a couple yet, he has our photo framed up here..I dont know, that was the first "hint" out of a few that I still just dont know how to read.
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reader, Shona18  +, writes (3 January 2009):
 well you seem to love him truely so I think in my opinion you must share all of your feelings with him but ya remember that love must be both sided and if he loves or has any kind of feeling for you he will surely come but ya do not hide your feelings you can go and share with him. Don't wait for his proposal otherwise it must not be too later afterwards...thanks wish you all the best for your love!
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reader, NITRAM BLUE  +, writes (3 January 2009):
 Lets do away with "the teacher" thing for a while because it will only confuse the situation. I am an accountancy professor and crushes are but part of the hazzards of trade.
To provide you with a rational answer, I will based them with my experiences and feelings and hypothically assume that I am the teacher involved in your case.
Every semester, I see students come and go. I meet the faculty and the rest of the student body. I am nice to everyone and my aim is to make people better individuals and working citizens of the country. When a very attractive student under my care comes along, I have to be professional but somehow I will give some special attention to her because of her superficial excellence. I may give her gifts, say something out of the ordinary and so forth. But at the end of the day, I often realize my responsibility and my profession - it really spoils the fun.
Now since you have graduated, you are free as a bird. The mentor student relationship is terminated. You like him, but you can't see the signs no more. I see no reason for him to hold back, neither can you. It is not wrong to fall in love with a former mentor likened to falling in love with a former friend. But you are the one having this deep feelings and what you are getting are mixed signals from him. What do you do?
Nothing.
If he really is in love, then he will find ways and means to reach you. Love is mutual, maybe he has changed over the semester.
My advice - be friends with him and let us see what happens next.
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