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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hello everyone,I feel like I'm being an awful partner. My fiance has a very small circle of friends, and most of them are women. The other night one of them had contacted him, after having not spoken for a while because of life being too busy. They talked on the phone for over an hour. Basically, I just felt very sick to my stomach. I have felt this way about some of his other female friends, and I hate being this way! I trust him, but I have this bad feeling for some reason. He senses that it does not make me feel well, but I tried denying it anyway, because I don't want to discourage his friendships! I think part of it is because she and most of the others are thin and gorgeous, whereas I am just average by society's standards. What can I do to get over this, so that him being with his friends isn't pure torture? Thanks!
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reader, Sweet-thing  +, writes (26 May 2012):
 If you are his fiance then I hear wedding bells in your future. You cannot sit on this topic any more. You are going to have to muster up the courage to tell him the truth; that you are uncomfortable with all these close-knit female friends. Say it as gently as you can maybe he'll understand. He doesn't have to disown them,but tell him that as you move towards your marriage you feel he should begin to limit the amount of time he spends chatting with them or having lunch etc. Try not to be demanding but allow him to understand how it makes you feel; how it must look to others, and how cumbersome those friendships are going to become as your future takes hold. Good luck.
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