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writes:I am 19 years old and I have come to the realization that I am a sex addict... I dont want my family or friends to know but I want to get help and I dont have money or Insurance to get a psychiatrist... I was hoping any of you could tell me what I should do... I want to have sex all the time and I'm always ready to go... My Guy "Friend" has even commented about it... Im Seriously in need of help when I get done I feel horrible but I still want to do it every single time... Im starting to worry about my life and my future... Please HELP!!!
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reader, shrodingerscat +, writes (11 August 2011):
 If you are an addict, then you need to go into therapy for sex addiction. Unfortunately, none of us here are qualified to tell you if you are an addict or not, especially with the limited information you've given us.
If you are TRULY worried that you are a sex addict and don't just have a high libido, you need to go and speak to a doctor about it, and join SA.
http://www.sa.org/
On their page, SA states:
"What is a Sexaholic and What is Sexual Sobriety?
We can only speak for ourselves. The specialized nature of Sexaholics Anonymous can best be understood in terms of what we call the sexaholic. The sexaholic has taken himself or herself out of the whole context of what is right or wrong. He or she has lost control, no longer has the power of choice, and is not free to stop. Lust has become an addiction. Our situation is like that of the alcoholic who can no longer tolerate alcohol and must stop drinking altogether but is hooked and cannot stop. So it is with the sexaholic, or sex drunk, who can no longer tolerate lust but cannot stop.
Thus, for the sexaholic, any form of sex with one’s self or with partners other than the spouse is progressively addictive and destructive. We also see that lust is the driving force behind our sexual acting out, and true sobriety includes progressive victory over lust. These conclusions were forced upon us in the crucible of our experiences and recovery; we have no other options. But we have found that acceptance of these facts is the key to a happy and joyous freedom we could otherwise never know.
This will and should discourage many inquirers who admit to sexual obsession or compulsion but who simply want to control and enjoy it, much as the alcoholic would like to control and enjoy drinking. Until we had been driven to the point of despair, until we really wanted to stop but could not, we did not give ourselves to this program of recovery. Sexaholics Anonymous is for those who know they have no other option but to stop, and their own enlightened self-interest must tell them this."
Please look over the site, speak to a psychiatrist and get help. You don't have to let addiction control your life, but no one here is really able to help you because we aren't doctors. Good luck.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (11 August 2011):
 Just another comment or two from the old man . . . who was once as young and horny as any. I'm surprised that you seem to be unaware of other youngsters your age, around your community, who may feel the same. Indeed, it's totally normal to be horny as you can be at age 19 and for several more years.
But I'm concerned about your statement: "Im starting to worry about my life and my future..." That can be a serious consequence if you get careless about prevention. Unintended pregnancy can certainly "change your life," possibly for the worse, as it did mine. So just be careful!
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (11 August 2011):
Just another comment or two from the old man . . . who was once as young and horny as any. I'm surprised that you seem to be unaware of other youngsters your age, around your community, who may feel the same. Indeed, it's totally normal to be horny as you can be at age 19 and for several more years.
But I'm concerned about your statement: "Im starting to worry about my life and my future..." That can be a serious consequence if you get careless about prevention. Unintended pregnancy can certainly "change your life," possibly for the worse, as it did mine. So just be careful!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you very much... I'm just worried I guess... Maybe I just dont want my mom to find out... I'll figure something out... And maybe Double M is right... Maybe it is the natural instincts... It seems like it has gotten worse since my uncle and his girlfriend had a baby... I am just goin to drive my self nuts thinkin about it...
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2011): Wanting to have sex a lot doesn't make you an addict. Unless it is interfering with normal life activities or you are going out of your way to do sexual things that society deems inappropriate (i.e. masturbating in public), you probably aren't addicted.
Like Double M said, at your age, a healthy sex drive is common!
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (11 August 2011):
Well I'm a much older man who cannot offer a solution, but will say that I've known young women who seemed likewise addicted. Perhaps I was addicted, as well, in my youth. At about your age, I would say that a healthy drive for sex is really not very unusual. Trust that you are certainly not alone!
Biologically, it's all about hormones, which is natural. Nature is "telling" you to have sex for reproduction. Hopefully, until the urges, availability and desires subside, or until you get married or can afford some help (if really needed), you will practice "safe" sex to prevent unwanted pregnancy.
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