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writes:I spend 15 months with him. he was my world he was my first for so manything.. and he broke up with me. that ways a year ago.. i tried to forget i tried to move on ive dated other guys. but he has my heart i cant forget him the way he hugged me kissed me. the way he pick me up and put my on the counter while we baked. the way he holded my in his lap. the time we went and layed under the stars at night and it was cold but his arm around it was alright. i remember every moment and every memory and they run through my head constantly. i know i lost him forever and i know its not gonna change anything hes moved on but i cant.. how do i please help me its time
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (17 August 2011):
 Our first loves really never leave us, but we can move on without feeling a constant wound.
Very,very rarely is a first love, a forever love.
To move on, first realize that he was only meant to be in your life for a season. It was beautiful and you loved the beautiful qualities about that time.
Now learn the qualities about that time which spoke to your heart so deeply and know that you will have those with someone else again.
Seek those things out in people in the future, not necessarily on a romantic level, but in connections with others.
You have not moved on yet, because you have not given yourself permission to. If you find it difficult to function after all this time without him, maybe it would help to talk to someone about grieving this loss.
In many ways, it is like a death and we go to the grave daily to weep over what we lost. But, even those we lost would want us to move on.
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