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writes: This guy and I were together for 2 years but were talking for 5. And we broke up 7 months ago for complicated reasons, we still talk once in a while and he's been talking to another girl, but I still can't get over him. I've tried everything. I even tried talking to someone new, I can't. It doesnt feel right. I love him so much, and he still tells me he loves me but our relationship just wasn't working out. He just wants to be friends but he said he wants to be best friends. I want that too, but it isn't the same relationship, I miss him dearly and I don't know what to do, how do I get over someone?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2006): getting over someone you love is the hardest thing i loved and still do this guy called matt when i found out he was leaving school forever it was a shock he had a gf and it just felt like it was just to late to do anything im a shy person so i didn't no wot to do ... i never had a relationship with him just simple little words like hey and eye contact had made me head over heels for him i started missing skool becoz i had image problems and felt i had to be perfect becos if i ever lost him id lose my world he was a dream come hes fate ... it all started when id looked at hes website and i thought he was gawjuss i couldnt get over him then he moved to my skool and was in my class! and sat next to me when he could have sat with all the boys my heart was racing .. everytime he entered the room it was like he had this power over my heart i could tell he felt the same way he always looked at me and hes usually loud but was quieter and more reserved around me simple things like banging the other girls in the class in the head with hes books insted of me and just giving me a smile he asked me out once i was to afraid to answer...afraid i would stuff up if i said yes i guess i dreamed and wished to much and didnt do enough .. he made me miss a whole year of school i had image problems but i still loved him with every single piece of my heart its a complicated story i kno... but now i dont no wot to do im afraid iv lost him i still have hes email and i see him quite a bit at the shops but i dont no if i should say something.. i want to say hey so badly but i have way low confidence for that iv cried so many tears for him i belive this is meant to be every other guy is average compared to him hes lifted my standards and everything and i never even had a real conversation with him! i love him the day after i found out he left our school i felt cold and alone and started crying so much it hurt heaps i felt like my whole life had been crushed sooo LOL i belive if u love someone so much never NEVER stop trying dont give up i have a new impact on life and no matter wot i will never stop trying to be with matt becos u cant hide true love it will stay with u forever u have try or ul regret it for a very long time! i missed a whole year of yr 9 becos of matt the reasons are to hard to explain he never said anything to make me want to i just didnt feel good enough becos he was so beatiful! and it was my fault cos i didnt trust in my heart that he would accept me for who i am AND i kno he would becos looking back at everything he tryed i just backed away cos i was scared my hearts broken i have so many things i wish i would have done from the moment he walked into out class room..... im hurt i dont want any of use to ever have to go through wot i have so PLEASE go for it dont be afraid be yourself and go for the one you love dont give up! xoxoxoxoxox
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reader, marktan_smiley +, writes (30 October 2006):
"loving someone means letting go of someone you love"
time is the best healer...one day you'll get over him
And hey !!! why do you tell that you love one another
when you're no longer together, the problem is that
the two of you can't let go of the situation...youre still clinging to your relationship hoping that it will come back
... forget about him ...but it's not an easy process...learn from your mistakes...believe i've went to that...
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reader, Lostandalone  +, writes (23 October 2006):
 Everyone can't be friends with a person they just broke up with. You need some time to grieve the relationship. Take time for yourself and heal. If you keep hanging around and calling him, you will be at his mercy. You have already broken up so don't let him control how your broken up. If you can't deal with being friends then you need to walk away and have no contact. You might find down the road you can be his friend or not but the way to get over him is to go out have fun and take your mind away from the situation and you can't do that holding on to hope that you all will be together one day. Maybe some space will give him time to realize what you really mean to him and maybe not but you have to move forward whether he is in your life or not. I know its easier said than done because I have been there. It takes time but it is doable. Be strong. That best friend crap is used to make the other person feel better about what they are doing, its not for your best interest. Walk away. Good Luck.
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reader, DEBS83  +, writes (23 October 2006):
 if that is all he wants is to be friends you have to except this and move on i know this is hard ive been were you are and i think the best thing to do so that you get over him is to stop all contact with him asthis gives you hope that he will want you and one day you will be over him trust me and ull meet somone else good luck
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