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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I've had a relationship with this girl for over a year. We took a break and got back together. I found out when we weren't dating she slept with someone and she was a virgin when we broke up. I'm hurt and it's been months now and I can't get over it still. As of now we are dating but I still find myself thinking about it all the time. It has stopped us from having a sex life, it's impacting both her and I. I need suggestions on how I should get over this. I just can't see my life without her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2011): There no easy answer like you're looking for.
Either you deal with it or you don't, thats all you can do.
DO NOT just assume the bad feelings will fade by itself with time. It's a comforting idea that people may to suggest to you but the problem is it won't actually work.
You going out and fucking someone else won't reduce it either. Not for very long.
You need to deal with it for real or you haven't dealt with it.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (3 January 2011):
 If you cannot see your life without her then tell yourself if you keep this jelousy up you will end up losing her as you will drive her away. Am sorry but you need to accept that you both were broken up so she never actually done anything wrong. I can accept that you felt shocked and hurt as you would have thought her first time would have been with you but am afraid you need to accept that it has happened now and move on with your life. Dont make her feel guilty like she has done something wrong because she was a single girl and was free to have sex with whoever she pleased so my advice is just forget it and move on or face the fact that you may end up losing her for good.
Goodluck.
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