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writes:simple but a hard question - how do i get over the fact that i am falling for a friend that doesnt feel the same way about me? im finding it so unbelievably hard Reply to this Question
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reader, Tommy7  +, writes (13 October 2007):
It's OK to fall for someone so long as you don't act on it.
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reader, Prince  +, writes (13 October 2007):
Distance always helps. Even thought it will hurt a hell of alot.
Although it also depends on how good of a friend you two are. if your both just normal friends that distance would be the way to go. if your both somewhat best friends and you dont want to lose that friendship, than distance wouldn't be the answer. That would affect the friendship and may even weaken it drastically. one way would be to tell him how you feel and that you know he doesnt feel the same back but you dont want to get all distant and risk losing your friendship cause you cherish it and that you just need him to know so you can get over it. if hes a good enough friend, than he should understand this and he'll acknowledge that your at least a good friend. As time goes on, you should slowly be able to get over him because you will begin to accept that it wont happen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2007): Your situation is extrememly hard. I think we have all been there, in a similar way. It sounds like you've somewhat accepted this person's right to choose what they want and you are not resisting. But you must do more if you haven't already. Muster up the strength, hun, because I think it would be best for you, to give this person some distance. This is very hard to do. ..I know. Do not put your life on hold because the more you interact around this person, the more time and energy you waste, trying to move forward to heal, recover and find someone who can give you the happiness and love you deserve. It will be very, very painful to be around this person and you know it, don't you. Try to keep in mind, that this friend who is not loving you in the way you envision 'them loving you' is not downgrading your lovability or beauty, as a person. You still have what it takes and someday some absolutely wonderful person will take note of that about you. But the longer you 'pine away' on a situation that is going no where, the longer you will waste your time. Get out there and live, girl. Get over this person...so you can be loved in the way you deserve.
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