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*ebecca05
writes:I've lived with my boyfriend for 2.5 years. During this time, he was going through a painful divorce. He started drinking and using drugs. He became verbally and physically violent towards me. He didn't work and I struggled to pay the mortgage. I supported him emotionally and financially. 6 months ago he began an emotional affair. 2 weeks ago he told me that he needed a break to heal himself and to make things better for us. One week ago he asked me not to contact him. I asked for a second chance and he said no. He finally got a job and is now happily seeing another woman. He doesn't need me any more. I feel so betrayed and used. I can't eat, sleep or concentrate. I don't think I'll ever be the same person again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2009): I wonder if it was 'accidentally-on-purpose'? Whatever - why not forward it to everyone you have an address for who knows her? Now that would be sweet! You could even print off a few and pin them to lamp posts and telegraph poles in her locality. Make sure you add her name and phone number on the bottom. He wouldn't remain flavour of the month with her for long, now would he?
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reader, Rebecca05 +, writes (22 April 2009):
Rebecca05 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe just by accident sent me an email of his new girlfriend in her underwear :(
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reader, Rebecca05 +, writes (22 April 2009):
Rebecca05 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your answers.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2009): I can't for the life of me understand why you should be upset to see the back of him, or how you could have lived with him. The moment he started using drugs and being violent towards you should have been the time you cut him out of your life. He certainly didn't deserve to be with someone as kind, generous and forgiving as you were.
To my way of thinking, you should be singing from the rooftops that you've eventually got rid of a useless waster and starting the rest of your life in a much happier state of mind now that you're free of him.
You're right about never being the same person again - hopefully you'll recognise a user when you meet one and avoid him like the plague.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2009): You don't get over something like that just like that.. It takes time to heal. But it might help you to remember how horrible he's treated you. Why hold on to love for someone who obviously doesn't deserve it. Remembr you are a strong woman and you will one day find someone to appreciate and love you for that. But for now I understand that no matter how much of a jerk he is you still have feelings for him. Just allow yourself time to heal. Someone once told me the end of a relationship is a death. It is a death of dreams and hopes that you had invested. I had a bad break up years ago and I wrote a eulogy. It might sound stupid, but it helped because writing down the pain and getting it off your chest helps..
Honey allow yourself the time and the scars will heal.. Keep in mind he was the jerk, not you..
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