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writes:Hey All! So I met this guy through a dating website but Frankly meeting someone through a dating website is not a ideal thing for me and I just did it because my friend forced me to join it. I have quit it now because I don't think it works for me. This guy is sweet but he's not what I would want to my guy to be like. And I think I'm pretty accommodating so its not like I'm chasing some dream guy. He's very emotional and can get needy...I respect that, but its something I don't like.Anyway, we met and it was okay for me. He was nice but you know, if I don't feel it, I don't want to lie to myself about it. And in this case, I din't feel anything. But for him, from his behavior and way of talking, I think he liked our meeting. Now I have left for my home and my holidays last for three months. We're in different states but we're still talking and flirting and all that. I really suck at just saying no or just bringing up these things. I don't know where this is heading? I'm not even seeing him for three months. I really don't know what to do. It is so uncomfortable and I feel trapped. Help!!!
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reader, SensitiveBloke  +, writes (29 May 2013):
 Do not let this go on any longer. It's not fair to string someone along.
Just tell him you don't want to have a relationship with him.
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (29 May 2013):
 Stop all contact. It does not make any sense for u to talk to him as u live in different states. Emotional men are baggage. They lack leadership and the ability to diffuse arguments effectively which is very key to a successful reltshp. Good luck.
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reader, oldbag +, writes (29 May 2013):
 Hi
Just tell him and get it over with, its the ideal time while there is this distance between you.
Its not fair to flirt and string him along, your keeping his hopes up when you know you don't want him.
Imagine if a guy did it to you.
Tell him today,nicely as you can, then have no more contact, don't even get into a discussion.Don't answer any calls or emails from him afterwards either.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2013): Just please don't keep leading him on. I was the guy in this situation a few months back. She let it go for six months. She told me she had never really considered me. Just like you, she had been forced to make an account by one of her friends and wasn't serious about it.
It was really upsetting and hurtful. Just tell him it's not going to work out and you don't want to talk to him anymore. I wish she had.
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reader, human_male  +, writes (29 May 2013):
 Why have you been flirting with him if you know he has no chance with you? You're just leading him on, which will make it harder on him when you do end it. You need to be a grown up and tell him, you don't think you are compatible and you don't think it would be a good idea to keep seeing each other or communicating. And then you don't contact him again, or reply when he contacts you. He will likely contact you and try to keep you engaged but just don't reply.
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