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writes:I have been married 4 months and I have never been happy since, My wife and I have been fighting for ages, even before we got married, she terminated the pregnacy a week before our marriage and made things worse, as I crying to have a baby and be a father, we haven't made love since, and living in lie out there in public, pretending to be happy, we fight every night, it's not fun, but none of us want to face the reality that it's not gonna work. The worst thing is I got someone pregnant and we are keeping the baby. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2009): chuckmate, i have heard it all but you and your comments really take the piss right now. how much more selfish and how much more cruel can you be. i wish that your wife can just throw you away out of her life without a glance. you have done such a despicable thing, cheating on your wife. noe having a child with the other woman. but from what i read you are so full of yourself, you care nothing about your wifes feelings and the ultimate betrayal you have done. you are very immature for your age and it seems like you actually take pleasure in causing your wife harm. with all your nastiness what type of father will you be to this child. well , just move to the other state, in that way your wife can be rid of you, once and for all.
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reader, Chuckmate +, writes (30 August 2009):
Chuckmate is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMy wife know everything now the lady i got involve with sexually and that she is pregnant, but she does not wanna let go, she feels we can work around this and that she does not believe in divorce. we not stayin together at the moment and it was my idea,but she does not wanna separate,we through counseling session and it was obvious with the counselor that i don't wanna be in this marriage,but she does not wanna accept that,I have been frustrated with my current job but I have found another job in another state,but she does not know bout it and i have a month to move. i wanna be alone and rebuild my life.
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reader, GrimmReality  +, writes (8 May 2009):
 You got another woman pregnant?
I don't care how unhappy you are or were there is absolutely, positively NO EXCUSE FOR CHEATING!
EVER!
Man up, go to your wife, be honest with her. Let her have a life that may be happy without being destroyed by a cheater such as yourself.
You are quite immature. GROW UP!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2009): hey, u said that u and ur wife can not face the reality that its not going to work, well, i think u've already done that. do u think u would've got another girl pregnant if u were certain u wanted to be with your g/f. people say guys dont think and make stupid decisions, but i know guys have to use their brains. from what u said about ur wife, i can see that she has hurt u a lot, with the whole terminating pregnancy thing. If u dont want to be with your wife then why are u asking us if u should get a divorce? there are a lot of people who stay in an unhappy relationship bc they are scared of how there life is going to work out, but why should they? i mean, if u are unhappy already why not take a chance and change ur life and try to get the happiness u deserve?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2009): Yeah I agree. Divorce this woman. you arent happy and neither is she by the sounds of it. marrying her was a mistake im afraid and the warning sign was probably the termination of the pregnancy however you still went through with it.
If you have met someone else and especially as youve got them pregnant and having the baby then divorce.
It was a short marriage but hopefully it will go well and you will have your child.
good luck
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reader, Colormevibrant +, writes (8 May 2009):
Chuck,
You've already created your escape. You're newly married, no kids, no property, no reason to prolong the agony. If you tell your wife about the child on the way, she's almost certain to initiate the divorce herself!
Even if your wife doesn't march right down to court to file for divorce, because you guys don't yet have a whole lot of stuff to divide up, a divorce should be a pretty simple process. In many states, you can even do it without an attorney. Check with your local bar association to see if there are any services that will walk you through how to file for a divorce on your own.
Note: you will most likely need to move out.
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