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writes:im 18 years old and im dating a girl that is 17. We started dating 2 years ago as of march 3rd 08. ok so iv been dating her for a while as you can see and she is great. shes cute, kinda funny, sweet, and we have alot in common. she was my first steady girlfriend. since i had never been in a real steady relationship, i kinda rushed into it from exitment. we met online and she lived a town away, about 1 hr, so i had never seen her before. at first she didnt seem my type physicly. she is short and a little overweight, not enough to say she is fat but she has love hanndles and big arms and legs. that hasnt really mattered and im not really that shallow but laitly i just havent been atreacted to her. dont get me wrong i thing she is absolutly beatuful and the cutest ever. sexualy and more her body is what i mean. thats just one thing really. another little thing is that she really doesnt have a sence of humor. that has been an issue from day one. i am a funny person and love making people laugh. i always have been. but with her i could bairly get her to crack a smile and that has always bothered me. i can still get her to laugh sometimes and she can be way funny but it takes way more work than i would like. so thats that. ok so the big thing is really hitting me now. for a while now i have been wanting to get out of this relatinoship. the reason is i dont think shes the "one". i think that if we eventualy got married it would be good and i would be somewhat happy. but i really dont think we are right. i havent tried to break it off because i was scared. she is the type of person that would threaten suiside. i dont think she would ever do it. but still she is the type and thats enough for me not to do so. now im in way to deep to even think about it really. Now days im just really depressed in thinking that my one someone is out there and i already threw in the towel and settled for someone great but not the "ome". i know in my heart that i love her but i also know that we arent supposed to end up together. i just dont know what to do. shes talking about marriage and engagment and i kinda go along with it, wich i shouldnt have, but its done with and i cant change that. i know it would break her heart and i dont know what she would do... but i know im never trully going to be happy with her......So please help i really need it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2008): If you know shes not the one, she's not the one. Pure and simple. Let her down kindly and get on with finding 'the one.'
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2008): just tell her frankly, but GENTLY, that you are not happy with her and give her and yourself some time to think about your relationship and realize that it's too late to recover the relationship. You and your girl friend just need to some time to get over it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2008): Often Truth is the best policy for all concerned.
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