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writes:How do I get myself out of a deep depression . I feel useless . Due to my health I don’t work and I have a hard time getting out someDays when I’m out with my partner I notice peopleOnly seem to address him and never me despite the fact I purposely involve myself innany conversation. . This seems to be the case with women and men and worse since I’m getting older . Have any other women experienced this and how do you handle it Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (25 January 2019):
 Seek help from your doctor.
Maybe it's "just" your hormones that are utterly imbalanced, maybe it's more, but DO go see your doctor.
Secondly, I'd say try working out an hour a day. There are plenty of free workout videos on YouTube you can try, if you don't want to join a gym. Nothing crazy, but to get a routine with Yoga or Calisthenics or something to get your body moving. when spring comes get a bike and go ride it or take a long walk, when the weather permits. Make sure you don't just SIT and stew in these negative feelings.
When you are out with your partner and meet people, do you join in with negative comments? Or do you get overly animated? Both can make people unsure of how to talk to you.
Do you have any hobbies? If so, find a group and join up. That way HE isn't there, it's on you to converse. Or find a place to volunteer. Plenty of animal shelters would love a pair of extra hands.
My husband is a extrovert, I'm an introvert. He does talk to a LOT of people when we are out. But I have never felt "snubbed" or not made part of the conversation by anyone, quite the contrary. But I don't insert myself in a conversation unless I want to, feel I can contribute or know the other person. I'm fine just listening.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2019): Ask for help!
If you can afford it, find a good therapist.
There are things you can do for yourself which can help. Take care of yourself, physically, mentally and emotionally.
If you can, organize a certain daily routine which will address your needs (eat healthy, exercise - walk, yoga..., sleep well, meditate...) and keep yourself active (read, cook - whatever you like!).
I don't know what your (other) health issues are, but depression can make you feel vulnerable. Maybe you are more reserved than you used to be and people could be reacting to that.
Do you think they ignore you?
When you ask a question do they answer or do they just continue talking?
You could benefit from a good therapist, in the meantime read about mindfulness.
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