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writes: My husband and I have been together 6 1/2 years. I have always been the aggressor and he likes it that way. I wear the pants in the family and he lays back and takes it. I manage the money, the bills, the decisions. I bought our car, I found our house. I pick our doctors. He doesn't want to do any of this. He says I am better at it. He doesn't drive, he doesn't even have his license, he gets rides or expects me to take him. He's *afraid* to drive he says. He's a wonderful man though. He's sensitive, charming, funny. He's a good father, but doesn't do much discipline as you can imagine. The only thing he DOES take charge with is the bedroom. He's very dominating in the bedroom and we really only have sex when he wants it. What do I do? How do I get him to take on more responsibility?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2006): Wow...reading your post, it sounded like it could have been me who wrote that! I'm in the same position and I am so tired of making all the decisions, from what we are going to eat, to where we should go on the weekend, to what he should wear. I make all the money, pay all the bills, etc. It gets very tiring. I wish I had an answer for you. He tells me the same thing, you're better at it. I think our men are just plain lazy. I feel more like his mother than a wife.
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reader, Jenna  +, writes (28 November 2005):
 Tell him how you feel and that you regret having taken it all on yourself and then ask him which tasks he thinks he could take over - but don't expect too much. You made a commitment to a man that you loved and it wasn't part of the deal that he should have to change.
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