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anonymous
writes: How do I get my husband back? My husband and I have been married for almost 13 years. The marriage has had some pretty rough moments and I screwed up big time on 2 occassions by putting my friends first. I thought I wanted out, but I DON'T! He moved out two weeks ago, because I told him it was over. He asked if there was anything to do to save it and I said No, so he left. During that 2 weeks I have come to realize I am NOTHING without him. He has developed a text relationship with a friend of a friend. He says they are only friends because he needs someone to talk to. What can I do to make him see how much I love him or now that he has a new emotional support will he just be able to move on by pretending he doesn't need me anymore? WHAT CAN I DO OR IS IT TOO LATE???
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reader, fisch777 +, writes (7 November 2010):
Sounds kind of silly but maybe you should ask him to let you be that friend. If he needs someone to talk to then maybe you two can text. Just like he would with her. If you do this not only will it bring you two closer becuase your sharing your feelings, etc but it might bring back that "spark". That's my suggestion. You both seem to want to make it work so give it a try. Also I'd Take things slowly. Good luck.
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reader, Latino201 +, writes (7 November 2010):
Girl, if he ain't married it's never too late! lol. Honestly. I would approach it this way. Call him. Do not get all emotional or apologetic. Just tell him you miss talking to him and would like to go out as friends. Maybe dinner and a movie, maybe just a walk in the park. Bottom line, you better look "bangin". remember how you guys first met. The flirting etc. Go there. Try to avoid talking about your relationship. just HAVE FUN. Wear something kinda sexy.. maybe get your hair done etc. Afterward just say goodbye, had a nice time. Do NOT commit to another date etc. Do NOT call him afterward. If he calls you, just talk, do the same and repeat. Give it a week or 2. ask him out again. This time a little more romance. Maybe old Diner you used to go to.. somewhere NEAR a hotel ( do NOT go to Hotel this is for psychological effect). This time a little more hand to the knee, stand up a lot and let him scope you a bit.. u know the drill. I guarantee this will work.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2010): I have told him and have BEGGED for him to come home to the kids and I. He said they are only friends so I sent her an email explaining how much I loved my husband and how much I want things to work. I asked if they were more than friends because I know this would ruin my chances of getting him back, but if they really were just friends I asked her to be my friend to and get to know me as well. If she really is only a friend and has his best interest at heart, then hopefully she will see how much I love him and try to help him make the decision to come home.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (7 November 2010):
Its not to late just be honest with him give him a call and tell him you have had time to think and you have realised that you have made a huge mistake and tell him you want him back and will work really hard to get the marriage to work again, maybe even suggest marriage counselling to get the both of you back on track, good luck.
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