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writes:My boyfriend and I are not acting the same lately?We've been together for over 2 years. We had a discussion a few days ago about his lying (over something minor) but since then, it makes me feel differently. When I confront him, he doesn't have much to say and there is no rationale. I love him and we have been together for a long time and I don't want to throw it all away. Any advice on how to get it back on track? It'll take me time.. Reply to this Question
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (10 August 2017):
 I am really reading between the lines here. Since your "discussion" you don't feel the same way towards him. By that I take it the discussion didn't go well. When he talks to you now there is no rational. I think that means that his comments don't make sense to you, or fit in the conversation. That could mean one of three things. One he is hiding his thoughts from you due to mistrust, two he is not present or thinking of something else. Or three he is just going through the motions, just saying anything because it is his turn to talk.
Finally you seem to be of two minds. You want it back on track as soon as possible. But, you want time . . .
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2017): Sometimes guys (and women) just feel compelled to lie. Even over the most trivial things. In my experience it's because they just don't want to face the consequences of telling the truth no matter how small. It's probably conflict avoidance, or something like that. The ball is really in his court. Best you can do is try to help him see that it's better to be open and honest in order to continue having a good relationship. After all, how can you have a good relationship without trust?
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