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writes:Hi My name is Jenny i am a lesbien who has just come out to my family and my girlfiend keeps pushing me further she wants to move in together i have told her that this is going to fast we have only dated for two months and i just dont know what to do? every time we talk about it she says i dont care about her i do! I have just hurt my dad by telling him his only daughter is a lesbien and were catholic.It taking him time to get use to it and me what can i say. I dont want to break up with her or hurt her i just wish she would listen Reply to this Question
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (22 October 2008):
There's an old joke on the gay scene:
What's the difference between a lesbian second date and a gay second date?
A lesbian woman will bring a moving van on the second date and a gay man will... wait, what second date?
Women are far more into making that instant connection and getting really deep really fast, and sometimes really clingy too. You have to be firm sometimes and say that you have just come out, and your head is not in the right place to move in together and she has to accept that it is nothing to do with "us."
It really is a case of "it's not you it's me."
If she can't deal with that then this could be a warning sign that she is a bit obsessive and you should back away now.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (22 October 2008):
 She is not showing a lot of consideration for you. You're completely in the right here, girlfriend. Don't move in yet - it's too fast!! There's no need to rush things and start living together.
Not to mention, it will just make it worse for your dad. Give him time to adjust to the news, give him time to hang out with you and be reminded that you're still the same daughter he's known and loved since birth. Give him time to get to know your girlfriend. He will get used to it in time, but it will just be overwhelming for him if you move out and into a place with your girl.
You are in the right. Your girlfriend needs to be more considerate of what's important and best for your life right now.
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