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How do I get my friend back? We were friends, then dated for 2 weeks, and then she dumped me! I desperately need some good suggestions!

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Question - (9 March 2011) 2 Answers - (Newest, 9 March 2011)
A male United States age 36-40, *lackest-Night writes:

I need help. I have posted a few times on this issue, and I am still mentally and physically destroying myself over it. I'll summarize:

We were good friends for a year and a half

Ended up dating for 2 weeks (sex included)

Had no issues whatsoever

Suddenly, she tells me she already has a boyfriend

We go on Winter Break, her dad gets arrested

She breaks up with boyfriend

I try to be there for her, she avoids me like a leper

Tells me a few weeks later she just wants to be friends

I end up texting/messaging nonstop

She gets furious, blocks me from facebook and Skype

I message her friend whom I know, asking what happened

He tells her, gets angrier

Haven't talked for a month

I am still head over heels for her, but I finally calmed down, and am able to be friends without expecting anything more, but I am petrified as to how to go about apologizing. While I do still blame her for leading me on whilst she had a boyfriend the entire time, and then dropping me like a used tissue, I did harass her when she had a LOT of issues with her family and ex, and that was wrong. What can I do? Please help, I still dream of her every night, and think of her day in and day out, but I do not want to upset her by contacting her again if possible. I want to apologize for the past, and let bygones be bygones. How do I get my friend back? I don't want posts saying it's not possible, it must be possible, I need to know how to go about it. If you want the full story, just message me and I will link you to the original posts. Thank you a ton, please help.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States +, writes (9 March 2011):

Honeypie agony auntShe treats you like crap..

Leave her be and move on. She isn't a friend nor will she ever be one (at least not to you).

I'm guess she told you that you could only be friends because she thought you would take the hint... She isn't interested in you. I'm sorry.

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A female reader, Moo's Mum New Zealand +, writes (9 March 2011):

Moo's Mum agony auntPersonally I don't know why you would want to be friends with her from the way she has treated you but my suggestion would be to write her a letter on paper telling her you are sorry for your actions and you just want to be friends with her.

But honestly mate I'd forget her and move on she sounds too complicated.

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