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writes: At my school, theres this boy who is pretty nice, but hes not my kind of a guy. He has this huge crush on me, and hes asked me out 3 times!! and all of the times, i kindly told him no but this v-day he sent me all these nice things, and he gave me like 3 cards saying its ok how you feel. I already told him no i dont like him, but he keeps bothering me!! please help me !! i dont know what to do. i dont want to be mean, but i dont want him to keep bothering me!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2007): tell him nicely that you dont like him like like that.but tell him you can still be friends but whatever you do dont lie to him by telling him your seeing someone else unless you really are because if he finds out you lied its going to get worse. i understand that you dont want to be mean but if he keeps bothering you you'll have no choice it may hurt him and maybe even you but time goes by and he will move on. hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell, ive told him that i DONT like him like 4 or 5 times, and i cant say that i have a boyfriend or im seeing someone, because my friends will think im like desperate so i lie and say i have a boyfriend. and i cant lie either, because in my school, everyone knows evrything!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2007): He might think that as long as he persists, it might win you over, but he might be thick in the head, as it seems. This possible obsession of his can lead to some aggressive behavior.
If the direct approach doesn't work, then the embarrassing approach might - eg: get your school counsellor to help you with this matter.
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reader, kenny  +, writes (23 February 2007):
 Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind. Tell him how it is, that you will never see him as anything more than a friend.
Good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2007): You will have to be very firm here and let him know exactly how you feel. I would also mention this to a teacher just in case things do turn nasty. Just tell the teacher what is happening and ask if they can keep an eye on things from a distance, but not to say anything to him. I am sure he will get the message in the end.
Take care
xx
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reader, baby blue fairy +, writes (23 February 2007):
well you obviously need to make your feelings more clear to the poor guy hag round with other boys say youve got a boyfriend or you have just come out of a serious realtionship and you are not yet ready to commit and are still upset and emotional if this dont work simply tell the boy straght it may seem hard but you have to be cruel to be kind its part of life!! best of luck
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reader, thels1  +, writes (23 February 2007):
well what you need to do is tell him that you really like him as a friend and that you are kind of seeing some one else and that if your feelings change for him he will be the first to know
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