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writes:how do I get my boyfriend to respect me and my property? I constantly ask him not to look certain things up on my phone and computer because I find it offensive, and he just totally disregaurds my feelings Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2007): I think either the other aunts or I might be getting the wrong end of your post, perhaps as you didnt detail what it is you dont like him viewing. From the way I read it you mean porn?
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reader, kenny  +, writes (24 October 2007):
 Basically he does not trust you, and also sounds like he is harbouring alot of insecurities. He has got no right to go snooping through your phone and your computer, who does he think he is. I think if this keeps up then i would consider walking away from this relationship, and finding someone who respects you and you property, and who gives you the love & respect that you so rightly deserve.
Take care x
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reader, Superdave67 +, writes (24 October 2007):
Yeah he basically doesn't trust you, and since he doesn't listen to your requests for privacy he is being disrespectful and controlling, among other things. Ask to have the same accesss to his things. If he refuses, which I'm sure he will, find a better guy, because he flat out isn't worth the time. People who know how to love give each other the space to be themselves and have their own life...the opposite of what he's doing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2007): He really is being inconsiderate in not respecting your wishes.
Can you make your computer password-protected so that you know the password, and he does not?
If your phone is a cell or mobile, can you lock it away somewhere while you are not using it - and of course, he should not have a key to that lock.
If you have told him, very firmly, that he is not to go into your computer and phone, you may need to consider whether you really want to continue the relationship.......
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2007): My fiance was kind of like that. He got mad if I didn't show him certain passwords on my computer-thinking that I couldn't trust him or something. But, he never showed me his password! And we are not together anymore because he didn't respect me in lots of areas. Learn by my example! Get out! Where there is disrespect there is no love!
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