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writes:after being widowed for 7 years i met a dynamic character who wooed and wowed me i loved the attention and enjoyed the high life and said yes when he proposed agreeing that he came to live in my house bought by me and my late husband as his house was up for sale and he and his ex wife were to share the proceeds.with his share he was going invest in making life financially more comfortable for us as a couple,It became clear early on that he had massive debt problems which i spent hours negotiating for low repayment agrrements with his many creditors.He started to treat me disrespectfully getting angry and aggressive For the last 3 years i have been walking on eggshells around him his moods and rages the emotional and verbal abuse is horrendous.As a retired builder he has amused himself making enormous changes to my house what he calls improvements.I can no longer carry on with this sham of a marriage I am 61 years of age listed for a double knee replacement op and on heavy pain relief,if i am to survive this i need to get him out ASAP.last night he shook a sledge hammer in my face and said that if i tried to get him out he would go through the house and leave it wrecked ,he has often said this and now the sledgehammer is always on the porch.I am not materealistic but i need my home at my time of life Do i stand any chance of getting him to leave.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2011): I am wondering if your husband has a problem with alcohol or depression because his behaviour sounds extreme. But yes of course you can make him leave. Source a local solicitor that gives half hour consultations free and deals with legal aid. Then go and have a chat ASAP and make arrangements to have your husband removed.
If he threatens you or threatens to smash things in your home again, call the police. They can caution him, remove him from the premises and charge him if need be. In the event that he is removed and you don't want him back again, change the locks and apply for a restraining order.
I am praying you were prudent and kept the house just in your name as this will make things a lot easier for you. Do tell someone what is going on at home, either a friend, family member or preferably a near neighbour. You need someone to check you are OK there until you can get rid of him.
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