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writes:I'm a 25 year guy my girlfriend and I have sex on average 12 times a week but its just not enough so I end up masterbating 6 times a day.is this normal and how do I get more out of her when she is not keen? Reply to this Question
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reader, Odds  +, writes (26 November 2010):
 I doubt there is a woman alive with that kind of sex drive who won't cheat on you. Outside of short bursts on vacations and the like, I haven't seen that sort of drive. You have a real catch if she can keep that up consistently.
Anyway, too solutions I can think of. You can try one or both.
1) Change yourself. Start taking longer with sex and masturbation. It'll tire you out, both physically and sexually. If you're taking two minutes now, change it to ten. If you're taking ten, go to twenty, and so on.
2) Make it even better for her. Start using lube, if you're not already, even a young girl would have a hard time staying wet that often. Spend the time going down on her and fingering her to get her off repeatedly, several times in a row if you can. Find out what she likes - remembering that her body works differently from yours.
Typically, when a guy finds what he likes, he wants that, only faster and harder. When you find what she likes, do it *exactly the same*, rather than increasing intensity, until she gets off. Rinse and repeat. If it's good enough, she'll be willing to stick around for more.
Additionally, foreplay and seduction outside the bedroom will increase her drive in the bedroom. Kiss her for five seconds before you leave for work/school, slap her ass and smile mischievously when you walk by her, that sort of thing.
These solutions will work best when combined.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2010): How do you get more out of her? You don't. She's not a blow up doll she's your girlfriend. 12 times is more than enough. If you want more then that then you'll have to just masturbate then.
Maybe if you showed her a bit more respect and realised that being in a relationship means more than sex you'd get somewhere.
You said yourself that she doesn't want to have sex more then she is so you should accept that not think of ways to trick her into giving in.
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reader, ivanichiaynus  +, writes (26 November 2010):
 Sorry, just another thought: if the title was your own and not from DC, it stinks!
You should not be thinking in terms of "what you can get out of her". That says a lot about your attitude.
She is not an object, a sex toy to be wound up and used, as it seems you want to do. If that's all you want from her, go and find something that you inflate and will be ready any time of the day or night!
If you actually want a relationship, treat her as someone you love, not as a "hole in the mattress"!
Ivan.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2010): 12 times a week is far more than average!
Your line "how do I get more out of her when she is not keen?" is more worrying though. It implies that you're already being quite demanding. Do you care for this girl, or are you just using her for sex?
How can you possibly expect her - or ANYONE - to fulfil your need for 'relief' 54 times a week ((6 x 7) + 12)?!
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (26 November 2010):
I think you need to spend more time making love and less time having sex. 3 minute sex is just that...sex. It takes the edge off, but that is it. If you spend more time with foreplay, teasing, and building up to sex, 6 times a week would be more than enough.
It's not the quantity of sex, it's the quality of sex.
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reader, ivanichiaynus +, writes (26 November 2010):
It's not the quantity, it's the quality.
Try making things last and having lots of foreplay, and, more importantly, afterplay.
Don't just roll off, fart and go to sleep - treat her well.
As "blonde30s" said, you are being adequately served anyway and if you want more whilst retaining her interest you need to do more, i.e. make it pleasureable for her in every way.
Ivan.
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reader, anytimeguy +, writes (26 November 2010):
anytimeguy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks and I look after her trust me spoil her.this drive of mine is just intense
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