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anonymous
writes:hi there,i was with my boyfriend for just over one year, but i cheated on him a few times when i was drunk. i told him this and he was willing to forgive me, but i broke up with him because i felt guilty, since him i have had a new relationship which ended after about 8/9months. now me and this guy are gettin seriously close again and are wanting to give it another try in the future, but i am 17 and he is 19, still living with parents.and his mum and older sister HATE me because of how much i hurt him when i broke up with him.he has told him mum and sister that he was the most hapiest he ever was with me and that he is still IN love with me (he lost his virginity to me and hasn't done anything with anyone else since we broke up)but his mum refuses to listen and when ever he mentions me she goes mad and refuses to talk to him. i just want her to know i am sorry for what happened in the past, but it was last year and i have grown up a lot since then, and i do still love him and he says he is still in love with me. we have started seeing eachother again but don't want to be propa girlfriend/boyfriend till his mum understands. she wont even allow me to go round his because she doesnt want to see me, its braking our friendship aswell as our romantic relationship. any advice on how we can make her see that we still love eachother and are the perfect couple?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2008): I had girlfriends when I was your and your boyfriend's age and my mother didn't like them and they never even cheated on me. She just didn't like most anybody who I dated. From my experience, you are not likely to change her mind, at least not quickly or easily.
Listen to the advice given so far by baby duck and Diovan. Just show him your love, stop drinking so much and don't ever cheat again. He has forgiven you this time and you are lucky that you have a guy who can forgive you. If you cheat again then he won't be likely to ever forgive you again. If he treats you well then you have to do the same to him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2008): Imagine it was your best friend, your mother, somebody close to you that had done this. Of course they hate you, of course they don't trust you, because you done their son wrong, and you hurt him very badly.
No matter, no problem. Your in love with him, he's in love with you. He has forgiven you, you make him happy and that's all that counts. You can't impress his mother, you can't wait for her to forgive you too, because that is asking too much. As baby duck has suggested, just treat him really good, make sure he comes home smiling every day, give him little thoughfull presents and never cheat again. One day, in time, she'll notice how happy her son is and she'll believe that you are the best girlfriend for him, but you made a mistake.
PS: Give up the drink, it's caused you to misbehave, that would be a very good start, to making sure this never happens again. Good luck
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