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writes:Ok, I think I have had enough. I am a 46 y/o divorced woman, mother of 2 kids. I have been with the same man for 6 years...6 very long years. We are not married nor do we live together. I am at my wits end.I have been through so much with him and stuck by him through thick and thin. He has done so many things to me that any other woman would have left. But I forgave him. He has never ever cheated on me, but his lack of appreciation of me is what is really getting to me.He flirts and looks at other women in front of me. When I confront him and tell him, his excuse is "he is a guy" bs!! Its disrespectful. He is so bad, that he did it with my friend (who is a bit on the "slutty side, I must admit) but also in front of his daughter. He is not affectionate at all. And that drives me crazy..it is very very rare for him to say I love you. When i ask him to do anything for me, its always an argument. He always give me a hard time. He does it eventually. But I do not believe I should have to get to that. I do not ask him for much at all. I am an independent woman, and make a good salary. Since we met, we both put on a little weight...I am still an american size 8, but I am not as skinny as I was...well lately little remarks about that..Now he has a hernia...I see him in pain, the minute I mention going to the doctor and getting it checked. He says I am mothering him and he will take care of it..and yells at me. He has in the past, hung up on me, cursed me, left me stranded.. I cannot talk to him...I am so done..and told him to leave. That I deserve better than this. That I am tired of being treated as a doormat. I deserve more. And he won't. I know I am right. This is not the way to treat a person, regardless man or woman. And especially your mate, the one you are supposed to love. I think he needs help. I need help getting him to realize...enough is enough
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2009): I think you did the right thing if he really respected you he wouldn't do those things in front of you. Yes guys will look at other woman but they also can refrain themselves from doing it in front of one that they love. Like the movie says and the book " he's just not that in to you"
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reader, Starlights  +, writes (5 August 2009):
 If you feel you are justified and right and cannot cope with him taking you for granted then you did the right thing.
He may well realise later on down the line how badly he has treated you and may well even come back for you.
In the long run i think its better you give yourself some space to calm down and destress from the situation.
everyone deserves to have a loving partner and if yours takes you for granted and praises other people it suggest they have inner unresolved issues, not you.
Good luck
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