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writes:My girlfriend takes me for granted. And it's pretty much my fault. I have tried so hard to let her know how much I love her and I have stuck around when she has made some big mistakes. Now she knows that I won't leave. I mean, some day if things don't change I'm gonna have to. It's just a matter of how much I can take before I break I guess. Regardless, it's not a question of love anymore it's now a question of respect. She doesn't have it for me any more I think. She basically doesn't call back a lot when she says. She seems to only want me around when she has nothing else to do, even though she says it's not true. I have talked to her about all this, but it just makes me look needy. I know she's not cheating or anything. She even looked at me the other day and said, "see, you are wrapped around my little finger". She's right! So, my question is, how do I get that respect back? How do I get her to respect my feelings more? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMine was raped as a kid and she never got therapy for it. She has ADHD. Parents are fighting, seperating. The rape screwed her head up towards fully letting a man in. She has no clue either. Thats why its hard to just leave, because she literally doesnt get it. She swears she's not doing anything wrong and she believes that. So, here I am. Like I said, if eventually things don't start looking up i'm gonna have to leave when I decide I can't take anymore.
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reader, Johndoe254 +, writes (31 March 2009):
Hey I don't know the awnser but I've been thinking what I'm doing wrong and I think you and I may have the same story she knows I can't get mad at her I wanna thank you man cuz this opened my eyes but maybe there's a way to do this ummm I'm gunna try it to play hard ball with her but your gunna need to turn her down every once in a while then start going to almost always try to make her break a bit but mine has problems to her fuckin stepdad beats her and I her mom had her when she was 16 so like there's alotta shot besides those 2problems
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAlot of what you say is true, but there are alot of "personal" problems she has that I didnt go into. Lets just say I knew what I was getting into, but then again I didn't think it would be this hard. But thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2009): If she knows you won't leave, then she knows there's nothing she could do to lose you. Which means there's no such thing as demanding too much from you because there will be no bad consequences.
She would respect you if she didn't think she so totally had you. The only way to get that respect is with actions. Words & promises don't amount to jack shit in this stuff.
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