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writes: i love this girl. but i am new to this dating stuff. i have slow danced at the dance with her once. but it doesn't mean anything she danced with 12 others. I really like her. she is awesome. how do i get her to like me. i go to a private school. i have asked her to rollerskate when the school goes. she said yes. and i have just asked her to ski. i dont have a reply yet. how do i get her to like me. Give me ideas to get her to like me.but one problem is my friend likes her. that why i need to know. Reply to this Question
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reader, musicman1  +, writes (7 August 2008):
anxiety never gets anywhere mateyou have to take it slowif you want her to like you, get her flowers, build her a cake (napoleon dynamite style) and DONT RING HER OR EMAIL HER TOO MUCH lol
best of luck mate x
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2008): man be her friend first get close and then get comfortable with her,family,freinds, and other people associated. Be nice respectful one step at a time. Speed is NOT the key take your time. Personally ive been freinds with this girl i like and ive been her friend for 3 years so you get the point. i just asked her out last week so patience is a virtue. Good Luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2006): Becoming friends with someone because you fancy her is not a bad idea if you want the relationship to blossom into romantic love. To want to love someone romantically is not to be considered a hidden agenda or a game, it is what it is, you have some deeper feelings for her, but she is not at the same place as you are, yet.
In order for her to become aware of her feelings for you, she needs to trust you as a friend first, and if her passion grows and she comes to the same place that you are, then all is well in the land of romance. If her feelings do not grow into romantic love, then you have nothing lost, you have made a true friend....because friendship is based on mutual attraction and a shared sense of values and respect, and romantic love needs all of these things as a solid foundation for love to last.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2006): There's no magic formula to make someone fall for you. You may be the sweetest person and still not get the girl. The best thing you can do is show your attention, ask her out (but be relaxed about it, don't show too much anxiety) and if she likes you back then it'll just happen.About your mate, well if she likes your mate better you'll have to respect that, as you'll expect him to respect it if she chooses you. But probability is that if you two start fighting for her then none of you is going to get her.I personally thing that becoming friends with someone because you fancy her is a bad idea, you'll feel very hurt if she doesn't like you back and you won't be a true friend and that'll hurt her. I think friends should be friends because of common interests and enjoying each others company without hidden agendas. I know it's not what you want to hear, there's no guarantees, just be yourself and hopefully she'll like the real you, and if she doesn't it's her loss. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2006): The way you get someone to like you is to be their friend. What does that mean? It means that you give her attention and you practice the art of reflective listening, which means when she talks to you, you repeat back what she just said in your own words...this will make her feel heard and not judged and she will feel more comfortable opening up to you and being herself....for example she may say something like this.."I was really mad at Aaron for telling me that I did that science project wrong and that I am really not any good at science." And you would say, "Yeah, I guess you really felt like he was talking down to you when he said that." When someone hears you reflect themselves back to them, it makes them feel understood, this builds trust whenever you do not judge, but instead hear and empathize with them, this builds an unconcious dependency for her on you and can lead to a growing feeling of love, which is what you want....friendship is always the basis of a love relationship...you sound like you are very young and you have plenty of time to be in love, learn how to be a good friend and you are way ahead of your peers and on your way to learning how to connect and love.
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reader, sweetiegirl  +, writes (16 December 2006):
 oh hunny that's so cute but you can try alot of things but if she's not interested then there is really nothing you can do. ask her if she likes you and see what she says and as for your friend liking her well you have to think is this girl worth your friendship and talk to your friend about it then come to an agreement, but what ever you do don't make the agreement that you'll share her cause she'll flip out to that. so talk to your friend first then talk to her.
hope that helps
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