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writes:So, this is all that has been on my mind for a while, and I want to ask for advice before everything slips away, and I ruin my chance.So, I was dating this girl, and I treated her perfectly. You may think I have an ego after that or something, but she realized that too, after she dated a different guy. We broke up mainly because she gained feelings for another guy, and she used some lame excuse to get rid of me.Well, the guy she actually just broke up with last night was a total tool. He'd always fight with her, and I could tell she didn't enjoy dating him. It was one of those cases where you don't enjoy it, yet you stick with it because of the feelings for the person. They broke up because last night she found out he cheated on her.Now, In the past week, the girl and I started talking quite a bit again. It got to the point where, if I went all day without starting a conversation with her, she would tell me that she wants to talk to me a lot, and she feels bad when she doesn't talk to me. When she found out her ex cheated on her last night, she came to me, and I gave her advice, like I always have, since I've known her (we've always been real close. i've helped her out through a lot ever since i met her, and she always comes to me when she needs to talk to someone.)Well, last night, she was telling me things that go along the lines of, "Dating 'John' made me realize that.... blah, I can't say it." And, she even told me that she still had feelings for me.But, she also admitted to me that she still has feelings for her ex, and she's not sure if she is going to take him back or not.And now, this is where all of the trouble starts. The whole problem is, she has to pick between her ex, or me. And you can bet your ass I want it to be me. That cheater does not deserve her, especially after all of the hurt he's caused her. After all of the things that I have done for her, and everything. I've never called her one name, never insulted her once, no cheating, nothing. Yet, her ex has the balls to insult her TO ME while they were dating. That's basically the only reason I'm upset and stressed about the whole thing. I KNOW for a fact that if she realized the difference between this tool, and me, she would see it clearly, and she would choose me in an instant. So, what I need help with is just, how do I get her to choose me?What do I do to make sure she forgets about the douchebag completely, and take me? I need help here, and fast. Because, I'm sure, in a matter of a few days, if I do nothing, she'll be back with her ex, and I'll be sitting here on the side of the road, yet again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2010): Dude the fact that you are not her first and only choice shows that she is not the person for you. She dumped you with a lame excuse. And she ll do it again . You're that guy. Don't be that guy. You need someone who needs you and doesn't use a lame excuse.
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reader, Crazy high highschooler +, writes (12 February 2010):
Ya dude like same she broke up with me preaty much cause she still had feelings for her ex but now they broke up cause he cheated on her several times but then she found out I have really strong feelings fir her too . And yea I know she's the horny type as in foreplay idk if she's had sex but I sure as hell know I would tap that . I feel like I'm in young love I want to try things with her but idk if she likes me and if she doesn't then I will be heartbroken it's so hard to tell if she does like me I might ask her friends because I'm to shy to ask her
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