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*hriskent1990
writes:Dear Cupid I've been having problems with my girlfriend and I don't know what to do anymore, I'm 19 and always horny and my girlfriend is 21. When we started going out we was having sex quite often but know after one and a half months she never seems to want sex which has made me very sexually frustrated. I'm getting very annoying towards her because I'm always asking for sex and trying to make sexual advanses towards her but she isn't having any of it. She always seems to be tired and then I just get bored laying there horny why she is a sleep I find it hard just to hug her because even then I get turned on. She has said to me that if a couple has sex to much then sex gets boring, she has said that we always just do the basic positions, so I have been reading up on new positions but it's hard to try them when she never wants sex, and when we do ever have sex it's hard to reach her g-spot because it's so high, there are so many things to deal with, I just don't know how to get her in the mood or how to stop being so horny around her. Please help me
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (13 January 2010):
 My opinion is that when a girlfriend or wife seems to become bored with sex, especially when young, or when the woman rejects intimacy most of the time, the relationship is sinking like the Titantic.
If you are living together, as indicated by saying you sleep together, then she may be "looking" and the arrangement is pending conclusion. You should be concerned less about not being horny, and more about improving the relationship on all levels.
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reader, justinthyme1954 +, writes (13 January 2010):
 Chris,
Iread about your situation. I think you are a normal 19 year old who should be horny all the time. When hearing about your girlfriend, two things come to mind. One is that she isn't the person you first remember meeting and things have changed.
But even more so, I see a red flag. Usually there are reasons for a decrease in having sex. Stressful things going on in her life, like with work. She may be questioning her relationship with you. And I saved the worst for last. May be she is seeing someone else behind your back and getting her fill of sex and therefore is tired.
It is really important that both of you set down and be honest about your relationship and what it mean to each of you. That means hearing things that you might not want to hear. There is a chance when actively listening that you both might learn some things about each other. So I recommend a set aside time to talk about your relationship with your girlfriend.
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