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writes: i am a teenage boy (15 yrs of age) i would like to know how i could build up my self confidence around girls as i get really shy and my face turns red. the other thing is that at school all the girls say im ugly and i would like to know why they say that to me ???? pleasse post this message up i really need advice
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2011): Bro, girls will be girls. Just remember though. we have like a 7 billion population which means at least!!! 3 billion women are out there. leaving about 1 billion single ones. about 500 million cute ones. And then theres that 1 girl. Thats the girl you gotta find!
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reader, good shot  +, writes (19 June 2011):
i think you should practice meditation. It really helped me a great deal in this regard and other issues as well. You should make an effort.
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reader, Tiger1357  +, writes (30 August 2010):
dude if girls actually call u ugly then does girls are bitches just forget what they say.Just dont let does girls get to you just feel comfortable as your self one of my freinds is ugly but he still got alot of beautiful girls the ones i liked just treat girls with respect be a gentleman and you'll find some one just dont let no one get in your head that your ugly
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reader, kedeger +, writes (12 May 2010):
Dude. That used to be me at my old school. I don't know why it is but it most-likely has something to do with some other guys at your school who don't like you or you are trying way too hard to be cool at your school. That's how it was for me. The hottest girls were good friends with the main click of guys at my school and I tried way, way too hard to hang with them but I realized what valuable shit in life really is and you just have to do what you think is cool and say whatever you feel. Also, remember that most girls are very nice and super sensitive people and the only reason that that many girls at school would call you ugly is not because you are its because of something or someone else. Just hang with who you want and talk loose to girls, but not creepy or geeky. Believe me I went through that and no one is into being friends with someone who doesn't even like themselves and tries to be someone else. You are the first person that has to like you. Until then no one else will. That is if that's the issue. I'm telling you though, I hang out and talk to everyone now.
Oh, also remember to recognize when people are stuck up, or accept people purely based on physical ability or possessions. Mainly, just follow your values to the core and do what flows with that. You do this and you will be a happy person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2008): Hi same here. i don't know what to say to girls but they talk to me. i make myself friendly and they think im kind, sweet, gentle, and they also think im the best hugger for some reason. Most girls just like a chat and i didn't realy talk to them. But i made myself noticable and it worked. I got the fittest girlfriend from this advice and all the girls in year 9 think im a gentle giant. hope it works!!!!
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reader, Soysauce +, writes (2 May 2008):
they don/t call me ugly or anything, im jus shy, what helps me is following what other people do, like the popular boy or something, try tosmile more, initiate conversations with the friends of a girl you like, ju don't try to hard. Don't say dorky things and never look away when talking 2 a girl cause they'll think you don't care about the conversation or somethin, act cooler, dress like the popular people, etc, good luck player
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2008): Hi, i have the same problem except that i am a girl and 15. I don't have the confidence around guys. But what my friends tell me is to try and find something in common to talk about or just talk about something random and make them laugh. I don't think they call you ugly because of your appearance but maybe they don't know you so that's why they call you. Make them change there minds by that and start talking to them and hanging out with them and maybe they will start liking you and changing there opinions about you.
hope that helps :D
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2007): Heyy!
Well most girls are complimented and exited by a lad talking to them. I mean if a lad just came up adn started speaking to me i would happily make conversation (ugly or not). Gils will stop calling you ugly if you give them the opertunity to get to know you. Don't approch the most popular girl but don't approch the quietest just go up to someone in your form maybe and see how that goes.
A few things girls hate in a lad:
1. Bad Breath
2. Bad smell
3. Trying to impress them
4. Talking to them for the first time infront of loads of people
A few things girls like in a lad:
1. Natural (not fake)
2. Making them laugh (but if that is not natural then don't try)
3. Listening and making conversation]
Just remember that girls are just normal people. They love to chat and love someone they can relate to. Please don;t worry about going red, i think most girls will find that cute. Dont try and be hard.
I hope that helped.
^ That is just about my dream lad lol!
Write back and tell me how it goes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2007): hi my name is jess i am 15 years of age and i'm the same when i am around boys but i stay calm and act confident and as for my red face i just tell the truth which is i am shy and then people understand.
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reader, heartoftherose +, writes (1 July 2006):
hey,
please dont worry so much, you sound like such a sweet guy and thats the first stage- a great personaility. I myself would really want advice on what would want to know what the hell goes in a guys brain- from a guy. ok, i can tell you the things that attract a girl, because building your atractiveness, also brings along more girls and at the same time that builds your confidence - sorted. Remember to always smile, that will make you appear confident and really approachable. Think to yourself that you are the greatest, that you are the most drop dead gorgeous guy on earth, and that any girl who would have you is the luckiest girl on the planet. It really has nothing to do with your looks, its all gotta do with how you compose yourself. Think about guys in your school who are popular. Are they all drop dead gorgeous? I'm sure they arent. There must be at least one who exactly a 9 on the scale of 1 to 10- yet they have so many girl friends. Also the most important thing is to say whatever comes to your mind. Speak what you think. Obviously dont say stupid things that will get you in trouble, but im sure you get my drift. Ignore your heart pounding manically, just tell yourself it's you lucky day and nothing's going to go wrong. Try it out once. Have a day where you make yourself believe that whatever you say or do will turn out well. Afterall, how will you know unless you try? Also, if you really do care about your looks (though im sure your not ugly) wear aftershave, because there's proven statistics that it makes you some high percentage more attractive. Act understanding, if a girl seems upset, go and ask her what's wrong. girls love this. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2006): Having courage around girls must be really difficult, so i wouldn't feel ashamed that you're not confident around them. There's probably loads of other guys that have problems socialising with girls, ur definitely not the only shy boy:)
Confidence is all about self-esteem, how content you are with yourself as a person. Do you like yourself as you are, or do you think you're ugly because they say you are? Remember that if girls only judge you by your looks then they're definitely not worth your time.
The way i try to help myself feel better and build my confidence is to spend time with people who make me laugh. It could be a sibling, a mate or maybe even a girl! The advantage to this is that socialising and laughing with other people automatically shows you that somebody likes you, and that you're not on your own. If you're really unfortunate and you don't have anyone like this is your life, you can try to meet new people, or get more involved with ambitions and clubs and such. These things bring new people to you! The thing you need to remember though is that you can either choose to let someone else make you happy, and feeling happy boosts confidence, which is vital for the outside world, or you can rely on yourself to make yourself feel happy, but i find the best way to boost confidence is to spend time with people who like you as a person. I promise, once you become happier with people, you'll become more confident, and more to the point, confident around girls xxxx :)
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reader, Smiler +, writes (22 June 2006):
 Hey Babe
I'm sorry ur feeling so sad :o( There are ways to feel better about urself and gain confidence. Surrounding urself with positive people who value u can help to remind u of ur self worth. Talking with people u respect and trust - such as family, friends - can be a good way of reminding urself about ur positive points. Doing something u are interested in such as sport, music, drawing etc can make u feel good because not only are taking your mind off feeling bad, but u are also accomplishing something. Of course if you can't think of a particular hobby or activity u are interested in, then you could try something totally new. Keeping busy with an activity can help remind you of your strengths or passions, while discovering something you are good at is great for building confidence. Participating in an activity with others from school can also be a great way of meeting like-minded people. It's important that u are not hard on urself. Give urself time to relax and do things you enjoy. Exercise is also important, as it gives u positive endorphins and helps you to de-stress. Although its easy to say, try not to be self-critical, or focus on negative aspects all the time. If you have anxieties that are holding u back then see if u can work through them - whether on ur own or with the help of others - otherwise you may have to simply let them go.
i hope my advice helped you alitte babe :o)
You Take Care X
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