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writes: I have a best friend that I have been friends with for a very long time. He once made a move on me... long ago, but I reacted wrongly out of fear, and the fact of the matter is that I taught myself not to like him that way, because back then I felt It would be wrong... and to be honest I have always felt he was very attractive... and well... hes my friend too.I was also afraid that If we went that direction, I might lose a friend I truly care about, and loved as a friend... maybe because he would change his mind about his sexuality etc etc. Now many years have passed. Ive come to terms with many things... this friend now lives with me... and I am having a hard time... because I am extremely attracted to him in every way. I want to tell him somehow... and I'm prepaired to hear that he dosent like me in the same way.... I just want to be honest with him... and I dont wanna lose my friendship with him. I do love him as a friend first and foremost. How do I tell him? Im also worried that if Im not direct enough... he may think i'm bi but not intrested in him... when he could be intrested in me. What do I do? Please help. I just wanna know where I stand. Hearing him say hes not attracted to me in that way... I could begin working with that. But as it stands now.... I have so many emotions and things I want to say... if only I knew they would be welcomed.
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reader, Lovebunny  +, writes (15 August 2007):
 um will u should find out how he feels about gays that way u will be able to have some ideal ,on wither or not he will accept u. Heres how u can do that,just ask him in a joking way wouldn't it be akward if if i was gay us living together and all.And if he says no the ask him would u ever live with a gay guy. if he responds postive then till him how u feel. If this doesnt work and u can't think another way of doing this then u needs to think about wither or not ur friendship with him is woth lossing over ur feelings for him cause if u till he might not accept ,but if hes a reall friend he should accept u and hopfully ur feelings for him,but it might be a lot for him to grasp.good luck ,i hope that if u tills he accepts u or better yet feels the same.
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reader, JessIzFit  +, writes (15 August 2007):
 If he is your friend and you trust him say what you want to say to him, he'll understand !
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2007): Mate, if he is your friend, you should both trust each other with your feelings. You should talk to him and if he is your friend he should understand and speak his mind.
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