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*oxly23
writes:Okay so there is this guy I work with, he works the night shift and I come on for my shift just as his shift ends, but I only work a couple of times a week, and dont really see him too much. But the last few times I have seen him, I have been late and he has stayed back half an hour to an hour after shift to talk to me supposedly about work issues, and he normally stays for a good half hour talking. And on one occassion he even came to the door to greet me when I arrived. Then we had a work function a couple of weeks back, when I arrived he was sitting with one of our younger attractive office girls, he looked up and gave a small smile before quickly looking away. He chatted a couple of times when returning with food (it was a buffet meal), sitting once whilst his ice cream melted. Then moved to sit with me when the seat vacated beside me,we chatted, then he said he was on duty that night and couldnt drink, and i mentioned i had to leave early my babysitter never wanted a late night. He could have left at anytime, but he waited till I said I wanted to go and then he said he also did. I mentioned i wanted to take a taxi back to where the cars were and he looked disappointed then , offered to carry me if I walked and my feet got sore. We chatted the whole 20min walk. I said to him once when he kept darting through traffic, - you are just trying to get me run over- he said no dont be silly i wouldnt do that. then he startd to walk me right out to my car, but i freaked and quickly got my keys out and said goodbye and left. My gut told me he wanted to chat, and say goodbye properly, but as I have just come out of a bad relationship, i did not trust my gut instinct at all.Now i have a dilemma- i have not seen him since that night as we have been on odd shifts, and i need to know how to fix it. or to find out if he is interested in some subtle way without making a fool of myself and reading something into nothing, as we have to work together and dont want to make in uncomfortable. So please help me i am desperate.
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reader, Roxly23 +, writes (12 December 2009):
Roxly23 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJust a quick update on this situation. I seen the workmate at work, for the first time since that night. At first he didnt really acknowledge me because he was busy with our boss. But when I had to move my car he came out looking very stressed, and as soon as he looked over at me he gave me a big smile. Then when I thought he was going to clock out with out being able to talk to him i was a little distressed, but he came after me with some information for work that i needed which he has never given me before. I thought he was going to take off again, but then we chatted for a bit, and he looked a lot happier and relaxed, smiling the whole time whilst we were talking. I apologised for taking off that night, and he said yea you did rush off but thats ok. then we chatted a bit more, and then said i would see him in the morning as he was on the shift ending when mine started.He said yes and should be able to talk then.But i am still unsure of whether he is interested or not and do not want to make a fool of myself if he is not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2009): I think he clearly likes you and must be interested, do you know anything more about this guy, met any of his friends at work do they vouch for him that he is a cool dude, not a crook or a druggie?
If he seems to check out, I think it is safe to let your gaurd down and then next time you see him just be very friendly towards him and if you wanted to you could ask him if he can go for a coffee with you, not sure how this shift thing would work out for you two though, being on opposite shifts might make it tricky to figure out when you can get together, but I am assuming you both have days off so maybe schedule something then.
A guy doesn't fall all over you walking you to your car if he isn't interested, plus he may have been a gentleman and wanted to make sure you got to your car safe. I don't think you did anything wrong or ruined anything at all by getting your keys out and leaving...you are playing a little hard to get and guys respond to that, they like the chase, so let him chase you girl, till you catch him.
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