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*dareANDdream
writes:I have always been the girl to get the wrong guys. I am through with getting hurt and I wanted some advise as to how to get the good guys who actually care about me and just not wanting sex. I have heard guys like it when girl play hard to get? Is this true?? I also have a daughter and she is 3 and fatherless. I need a man who will be mature enough for me and her. How do I go about gettin the right guy? How do I know he is not goin to be good then one minute change on me and be a different guy? Reply to this Question
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reader, 2dareANDdream +, writes (28 January 2009):
2dareANDdream is verified as being by the original poster of the question thank you guys.. =)
I am one of the mothers who puts her daughter first. I dont go to clubs nore do i hit bars. I dont do any teenage stuff, I am a mother and I play the part as best I can. I say If I can be out in the club I can be at home playing a game with my daughter, i never put her behind anything..
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reader, Llorhan  +, writes (28 January 2009):
Getting the right guy or girl in your life is hard to do. To be honest i hate when girls play hard to get but then also when they are too easy. There are a lot of good guys out there who dont just want sex. I should know im one of them. Lol but seriously most of the bad boys or whatever you want to call them are generally over confident and will be the ones who chat you up constantly etc although not all the time they can sometimes be nice. Its all about persevering and not settling with someone who isnt right just for the sake of it. Keep your chin up there are plenty of guys out there who will love you and care for you and your daughter. There are good guys out there who will do anything for you and although they may seem few and far between. I was like you when i was single, minus the daughter part, that i had to find a good girl who was caring and loving and I did find someone but only when I wasnt looking. There will be someone who will take care of you and your daughter but when he shows up could be at a time when you arent looking for someone like that and creep on you completely unexpected. I dont know how you would go about getting the right guy apart from waiting until you find someone who cares and loves you like you deserve. x
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reader, The old Man? +, writes (28 January 2009):
 Being a little bit of a challenge is good!
Your age also creates a bit of a handicap. Girls your age are more apt to be ready to settle down than the guys your age. You may consider someone older.
You probably wont meet him in a club. If you hang in the clubs, you're not showing responsibility to your child. I'm not saying stay home and be a hermit, but a chick that hits the clubs every weekend isn't someone to settle down with.
If a guy talks a good line, that's a good indication that he's talked a few lines. Move on!
If he pressures you for sex, move on.
If he can take the time to get to know you, take you to dinner or be equally as happy staying home and watching a movie with you, you're on the right track.
I could babble on, but it all comes down to your personal interests. If a guy has to be on the go constantly, and lives/loves to party, than he doesn't have what it takes to take care of you and your child.
I hope this helps.
Joe~
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