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writes:I like this guy I mat a couple of years ago, on an exchange trip to Germany (we both live in England and are 17). I told him I liked him, and we've met up a couple of times since then, once with mutual friends and once on our own (although it wasn't planned). So I spent a few days at his house, and he introduced me to his friends, and put his arm around me during a film, which I took to be a good sign (I have no previous experience of relationships and neither does he). However, since then he hasnt been very forthcoming. What should I do to encourage him, without scaring him off? (He's shy, nerdy, uses humour to deflect serious conversations and is 17 years old, same as me). Please help, because I don't know what to do!
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (5 September 2014):
 I think the more time you two spend together (not texting but in person) the easier this will become.
And like WiseOwlE said, go slow.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (5 September 2014):
 If he's shy then continue to be his friend without any pressure of turning it into anything more. You both need the consistency and the reassurance that you both like each other the same way. The physical part can come slowly and gradually. You can build a connection by sharing stories and getting to know each other.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2014): If he was brave enough to put his arm around you, you're right. That's a very good sign. He already knows that you like him. You can take his hand sometimes when you're walking together, and let him know it's okay to hold your hand. If you're sitting close together, you can lean over and put your head on his shoulder. Just take it slow. You have to get to know each other better, and see each other a little more.
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