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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:My husband and I have been married for 4 years and together for 12. He's always been mentally and physically abusive. The abuse started as early as the first 6 months. We have 3 little girls and I don't know what to do. I'm in the military and he's constantly trying to get me into trouble by going to my job telling them things about our marriage. He also call 911 all of the time telling them that I hit him and when the police gets to the house he tells them a different story. The story is that he is usually hitting me. I filed for a divorce a couple of months ago but stopped it because he started crying. He left town for a week and when he got back he told me that I couldn't ask any questions. What do I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2008): Continue with divorce proceedings! Get Out Now! It's not gpoing to get better! I have the police reports, restraining orders, and finally the divorce papers to prove it! After 17 years of hoping it would get better I left for the final time! Yes, I took him back over and over again, out of pity and (what I thought was)love.
It started shortly after our marriage began. At first it was verbal abuse, breaking things, punching walls (I always kept a can of spackle handy...and lots of dollar store pictures to hide the evidence of violence) Eventually he turned his rage on me. He fractured my ribs three times, broke my nose, countless black eyes, cuts and bruises...and then he thought to start punching me in the head so there would be no tangible evidence. It was a miserable life.
I suggest you don't more years on this man...it'll never get better. You know what really kills me...how they can be so tought against their woman and then the next minute, they cry like a baby...and the worst part is we fall for it and stay out of pity!
I know exactly what you are going through and it saddens me deeply. My heart goes out to and so do my prayers!
Good Luck!
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