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writes:So, I know I am joining the legions of students on here who say they are in love with their teacher, but hear me out as mine is a little different. I absolutely adore my teacher, and he has indicated that he really likes me too (though he hasn't VERBALLY said anything to suggest he wants anything more than your avg. teacher-student relationship - physically he has rested his hand on my waist after we hugged once). I want to become closer to him, not because I want to pursue an affair or anything, I know how wrong it is and all that, but I want to just become good friends with him. We've talked before and we kind of came to the conclusion that when he was my age we were pretty much the same person in a lot of ways. Seems great, right? But the problem is I'm rather shy and I don't know how to strike up conversation with him. Do I just stride right into his room and talk about anything and everything? Or should I have "justifiable" topics to talk about? Your advice is much appreciated! Also, I do not want to be inundated with people telling me how wrong a student-teacher relationship like this is. a) I have already made up my mind in that regard so it doesn't matter and b) that's not even what I'm asking about. Thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2008): Well if he has a similar personality to you then he probably likes the same things you do. Talk about an assignment that you've been set that you really enjoy or something that you enjoy on television, or a book you've read. Something funny in the news. Anything thats light chit chat and non-personal.
Of course you can be friends, make sure that you don't spend to much time alone with him though... Rumours spread fast around a school......You wouldn't want him to lose his job because of harmful gossip.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2008): I recommend that you just strike up conversations about average things, like assignments or something like that, just so that you develop the communication aspect with him. Once you feel really comfortable talking to him just gradually bring up different things. I understand wanting to have a friendship with your teacher, I often had better relationships (only friends) with my teachers than i did with students because it was easier to relate. I actually have hung out with them at bars and such now that i am done school (they are not really old mid 20's and i am 20 so it is possible)...hope that helps...
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