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*ighingsoftly
writes:Well, I need help on a really awkward situation. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years on a semi -distance relationship. We have had some ups and downs and even some betrayal from his side which i forgot and let go of. On the picture my best friend comes in, we been best friends for the past 4 years and he moved back to his country but we always spoke on internet /phone/ mail really often. Recently around two weeks ago my "best friend" confessed his feelings for me, and I was not indifferent to him. I love my bf or I am probably comfortable with him , but with my best friend I feel something different. My bf saw a message on my facebook inbox and he relaized my feelings toward my best friend. I really do not know how to decide...( becuase "deciding" between two poepl sounds horrible) Most people say weight pros and cons but well i've been with my bf for two years and he says he doenst care what happened with my best friend and that he loves me still. My best friend has always been very inconditional to me always but I am not sure how he would be as a boyfriend.what would you do? I dont want to break up with my bf because of that, but I really do not see myself parting ways with my best friend. A friend suggested to keep going with both and then break up with my bf or with my best friend for other reason than because of one or the other...I understand it sounds cruel...and I may not love either of them..but I am not sure what to do.. Any suggestions appreciated.
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reader, sighingsoftly +, writes (7 November 2009):
sighingsoftly is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOops I mean to say I am not indifferent to my best friend's feelings :P 3 Thanks for ur answer CaringGuy ^^.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (7 November 2009):
Your own question has a few answers in it. You say you love your boyfriend, then go on to say that you're probably comfortable with him. Then you say that your best friend opened up and you felt indifferent. And at the end you suggest you may not even love either. Which I think is true. If you really loved either of these men, truly loved, you wouldn't have had to ask this question at all. I don't think it's a good idea for you to see both guys, because if one finds out, you may find yourself without both, or you may end up feeling worse that you do now. Find a quiet place that you enjoy, go there by yourself and really listen to what your heart is saying. If it and you can't make your mind up, then neither guy is for you, because you simply don't love them enough. If you prefer one guy over the other, choose him and end it with the other. And if you can't end it, again, neither guy is for you. All the best.
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