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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I met this girl in high school...she had just shifted to my home-town...and we became the best of friends in no time.We bonded over everything, although we were poles apart. Im going to call this girl Meg.Meg was the typical wild-child...she wud colour her hair purple, had her belly-button pierced, and I was the quiet one...but we really got along. Her family life was a bit of a mess...she has a very dominating dad, her mom didn't have a say in anything and there was a very irritating younger sisterHer parents got transferred again in a couple of yrs, and she shifted with them, although we kept in touch. I shifted to Rome for my Masters, and I was REALLY busy. Coupled with that, I wasn't coping well with hostel life at all, so I had really withdrawn into my shell...the stress was killing me. I couldn't talk with Meg much, maybe just once a day or something, which I thought was good enough, but she kept cribbing I wasn't giving her any time...(she was meanwhile stuck in a crappy university studying something she didn't really like, and I felt a sense of resentment from her side)....but I couldn't do any more than I was. It was ok when we were in school and we could talk and giggle all day long, but I couldnt do the same here...so she stopped talking to me...saying that I had changed a lot. It was honestly a relief!Fast forward 4 yrs. I see Meg has landed up in my university, where I'm now a PhD student. She's doing her Masters in English...which is totally different from what she was studying earlier. We bumped into each other one day, she was in tears..."OMG...its been so long"...and we ended up having a chat.I was very skeptical of her, since I wasn't sure I wanted to end up with this clingy female again. (Iv left loads of details out)....but we ended up meeting regularly again and chit-chatting.She has a bf who she's engaged to, and I have a bf too...but she somehow seems very condescending of "us"...as in..."Oh, my boyfriends so good looking, I'm so lucky to have met him...you could also do better than this guy that you have right now...", which is weird, coz she knows that I have this whole history with my boyfriend, and that he's been in love with me since high school. I dont get her attitude towards my relationship with him...as in..."I'm so happy and secure, and you're not." Which is so not true. She still craves for attention, she doesn't get along with her parents, she still wants to cling on to me almost obsessively, and yet she keeps raving about her awesome boyfriend (who by the way seems pathetic...he forwards sexual text messages to her, and then wants her to show them to me, whch she doesnt mind!!)What is the deal with this girl? There are so many things I couldnt write...but overall I hope u guys get the drift. I live in an apartment now, and she keeps trying to come over and plonk herself there....which is not really fair, becoz as it is I share it with another girl, so i think thats totally uncalled for. Should I continue being friends with her? she started the same drama about me not giving her "time" and i blew my top...I have enough to think about...studies, family, my boyfriend, the last thing i want is a crazy woman. Can someone help me get an insight into this female.,..what is WITH her, and how do I deal with her?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2010): She sounds very insecure and obviously craves attention.
I think you should have a serious talk with her about how her behaviour is affecting you, maybe she doesn't realise how bad she actually is. If she still doesn't get it then you'll have to tell her that you just can't be friends with her anymore.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2010): Sounds like she wants to have lesbian show and touch with you. Is she bi?
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