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female
age
30-35,
*ram
writes:Hiiii dear cupid..my question is that it is allowed in any religion or any country to force someone specially girls for marriage..if parents are forcing someone for marriage then what to do..my parents always said girls r not allowed to raise there voice if elders r discussing something related to there future or marriage..plzzz help me to get rid from this illiteracy.. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2012): Do what I did. Get married to who they want and then get divorced! Did my duty, it didn't work so I got my freedom.
Seriously unless you are financially independent of your parents and are willing to leave them to lve on your own, then you have little chance of avoiding this talk.
My parents told me I HAD TO get married and it HAD TO happen and I couldn't be on my own it wasn't right. They said if I got married I could see my family but if I didn't they would cut me off the family. I did what they said and within 5 months the marriage was over.
This marriage is not about you, it's about them and what they want which is why they tell you you have no say.
Only you know whether you can go through with an arranged marriage.
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reader, sweetiebabes  +, writes (8 May 2012):
 There are few countries I believe practicing an arranged marriage, but as far as I've known, in India it is still existing as my associates at work who are from India came from an arranged marriage.
Arranged marriage is part of your culture, your belief, traditional practice and if you do not want to be part of it, you need to talk to your parents and tell them what you feel.
This may not be easy as I believe this is still commonly practice in India but give it a try and make your parents understand. Possibly they will also convince you why they have to do what they have to do and give you reasons why they want you in an arranged marriage.
I am sure no parents would allow their children to suffer but there are advantages and disadvantages in such practice.
I strongly suggest you speak and vent your fears with your parents, I am sure they will listen and understand you but I believe they will still make the last decision for you.
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