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*ittle_dancer
writes:i have been with my boyfriend for a few weeks now, it was originaly not my plan to even have a relationship, but then he came along...but latley he has been really annoying. i dont get free time to my self he gets whiny when i spend time with my friends and threw a hissy fit when i didnt go to lunch with him and decided to read a book alone. he also is giving off the vibe of being a potentialy controlling boyfriend....which is no bueno for me. 'specialy since i was not planning on a relationship with anyone. so how do i talk to him?i have no idea where to even begin!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, thelittleone! +, writes (25 September 2008):
 Hey!
Maybe he thinks something like "i love her thus i have to be all the time with her" or something like that men minds are so hard to understand otherwise he can be cheatting u try to figure out this situation and if u are unconfortable dealing with this u should talk to him and say something like:
I love to spend time with and hang out with ya! but i need time with my girlfriends and dudes to can talk to them about u!
then he's gonna feel so special :D
and he's gonna act like a good b-f
If u talk to him, he's gonna know what do u feel!
ps. fill me in!
xoxo
little one
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reader, zelgamer +, writes (25 September 2008):
 I recommend to sit down with him, and make sure he understands that you still like him, but that you are feeling a little overwhelmed right now. Be nice but honest about it, and again make sure you get the point out that you still want to be with him. That is of course if you do.
Tell him why this is a problem, and that you still need time for yourself, it's not like your leaving him. Controlling partners can be very bad, but it doesn't mean he is one, he might be going through "one of those phases". I've gone through one, and my wife let me know, and she's gone through one, and I've let her know.
Communication does wonders. Best of luck!
PS: If he gets pissy and starts acting stupid, name calling, more controlling, it's time to move on unless you do want a controlling relationship, which it seems you obviously don't. :-)
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