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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:To me loving your partner means doing things (not sexual) he likes to do even though you don't like it just because he likes it. Last night I was watching something and he criticizes it and had a whole lot of commentary, which is usual, and I just got frustrated and told him that I do things he likes to do because I know he likes it even though I don't, so he should do that same that comes with loving someone. He turned around and said that that's stupid and if it were true it would be written down somewhere and that it doesn't matter if I'm there or not, that he still feels the same if he did it alone, and I got really hurt because it does matter to me if he's there or not. He's my husband and he says he loves me so much. That comment sure said something else.This morning he sent me a text saying that he doesn't have time to deal with my emotions over stupid issues and that wasn't a stupid issue, that's an everyday issue. Please help me. I don't know what to say because it's nothing new that if he doesn't see something as being important or to his liking he criticizes and makes it an unhappy occasion. How do I deal with this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2008): Hi
To put down somthing that you enjoy is the same as putting you down and is undermining your feelings. He is WRONG
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reader, yum yum  +, writes (3 November 2008):
 I agree with Kinky Boots however if he does not change even after you toughened up and explained him clearly how you feel, then you should consider a divorce because his attitude is not good for your well being. Good luck!.
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