How do I deal with my BFs crazy mother?!

A female age 30-35, *eavennn writes:

Okay so I have been with this guy for over 4 months. He is 17, will be 18 in December. He has a very overprotective, crazy mom. Some of my friends have said it's because it's her only son and I'm his FIRST girlfriend. But anyways, at the beginning of our relationship, before we were together (just talking) she had noticed he'd been talking on the phone a lot with me lately and texting so one night she takes his phone and goes through his text messages. Finding some where I said I was drinking that weekend and seen where I said I was going to an alternative school. His mom is president of stuff at the highschool he goes to. And I used to go there and the only reason I go to this alternative school is because I had missed a couple credits and needed to go make them up. Anyways, she took his phone and flipped out. Said we can't be together, well he finally gets her to calm down and she says we can. Then she tells him to tell me that I am not welcome at their house until I gave her my parents full names (so she could look and see if they had a criminal record), wanted my address and my home telephone number. This was about a week into our relationship, I wasn't comfortable with it but I did it anyway because she wasn't letting us see each other until I did that. So after I did that, I had went over there a couple times. We then started hanging out every other day, until one night she told him our relationship is temporary and that he needs to stop seeing me so much and taking time for his guy friends because i'm his first girlfriend and there will be plenty more and she doesn't want him to lose his friends, which is completely understandable so I told him to start hanging with friends. After that it got worse because we were hanging out maybe 3 times a week, started argueing more. And he hasn't trusted me in the first place because I had cheated on ONE of my ex boyfriend's. So he became controlling. She took his phone again, ran in the bathroom and was reading our text messages and told him to please not have sex with me and that she was just trying to save him. couple days later, we made a joke on facebook. he set his facebook status that we were having butt sex and that he hoped it didn't hurt me again. he set it through via facebook mobile. when he updated it, i was actually leaving his house, we weren't doing that, it was a joke. well his mom wanted to go through his stuff that night after he fell asleep and his facebook password is saved on his laptop so she gets on, reads all our messages from a long time ago, and tells him he cant be with me anymore and takes his phone. the next day i called her, and knew that was my only option if i wanted to be with him. she told me he had been acting better since he'd been with me but that was disrespectful and i told her i knew it was and that i was very sorry and it wouldn't happen again. so she gives him back his phone, says we can be together and said I needed to come over that weekend and have a dinner with them. and I was actually really excited about that because i wanted to make things easier and get along with her, she knows nothing about me and all she's seen or heard is negative things. then a week after that, she comes home one night and tells my boyfriend that she had lunch with some other parents and they were telling her i had a bad reputation, that i got around with a bunch of guys. which is a complete lie because i have slept with 3 guys, and none of them live in our town, and it's a pretty small town but anyways she told him it was his decision whether he wanted to stay with me or not but if he did to not have sex with me. Well we broke up over it because I was so furious but we got back together and he said he wasn't going to believe it. Now when I go over there she acts all nice like nothing is wrong. Then I guess tonight on their vacation she told him that I'm a slut, that he's just with me because he wants sex, that I never dress up when i go over there (which I ALWAYS DO... always wearing skirts or dresses!) so he had been texting me telling me he was having it rough but that he loved me and defended me. Told his mom that he couldn't stand to spend another second with her, told her to fuck off, that she was a bitch, he couldn't stand her, hated her, wanted to go home. Then he texts me and tells me that it's all better and that she was sorry for saying that. He made a promise to me not too long ago that he wouldn't let her come in between us. We've been through so much with her, does it ever end or does it just keep getting worse? I don't know how much I can deal with. She's psycho. Sometimes I feel like it's worth it, other times I just feel like going and finding a new boyfriend.

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