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writes:I am teenager who unexpectesly lost her mother.I am fearing all the things in life right now Earlier I was fine but out of nowhere I am fearing death and just seeing negative Of each and everything i see and spmehow correlate ot with death.Do u know any psychology trick to overcome this Actually I am a very intuitive person so O feel that the thing that happened with my mom os going to happen with me.God knows why but I also keep getting messages that I am going to have a bright happy future life.But due to this high functioning anxiety My chest is lotterally throbbing.I know my brain is tricking me into thinking negative but how should I stop this.Also I live too much into the spiritual plane not in the practical too much tarot astrology and universe signs and such things etc Sp whats the solution please help thanks xoxo Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2020): Sorry for the typos, I meant to say:
"It does revisit, and it can hurt again and again."
"It's best to allow them to run their course, anyway."
"You need to talk-out your feelings; and gain an understanding through the wisdom of older-adults. They can not only advise you, but hold you to console you while you grieve."
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2020): I am so very sorry for your loss, sweetheart. You have just experienced one of the most incredible losses anyone could ever face. The loss of a loved-one, particularly your mother. There are never words one can say that actually console the grief and the pain you feel when you've lost someone as close as your one and only mother.
I lost my mother at the same age as you. I too got really scared about death; because cancer was a dreaded word in those days. There are no tricks or quick-fixes that can make you quickly get-over losing your mother. You have to undergo the grieving-process for as long as it takes for you to learn to live with it. Eventually, you will accept it; and you will also learn you can live with the grief. It does revisit, and he can hurt again and again. After all, she was your mother. She deserves to be missed, and it is a very great loss. You're still only a child, and you have yet to develop ways to manage or contain powerful emotions. It's best to allow then to run their course, anyway. You can't fight grief. You do your best to not allow it to turn into depression. You can't give-up and surrender to dark feelings of despair. That's beyond grief. That's when you need help.
Fearing death is natural, but don't allow it to become an obsession. Everybody on the planet will pass one day. It completes the circle of life. Every-time you get sick or hear about death, shouldn't put you in a panic. If it gets to you too much; you must immediately discuss it with your father, or a trusted adult.
Do not let all these things go through your mind, while seeking advice over the internet. You must talk to those who love you, and those people who are near and dear to you. Teenagers hide from adults and bottle-up their feelings. That's dangerous and unhealthy. It's totally unnecessary.
Rebellious or troubled-teenagers see adults as their enemies; if you don't live in a dysfunctional-household, kids have no reason to think like that. This it really the time you need to see your father also as your parent; and someone who also cares for and about you. He is a source of strength, even when he's grieving along with you. His job is to look after you, your mother would expect that of him, and he knows this. If he isn't someone who shows you affection or kindness, then turn to any family-member you know who would. Reading words on a screen is not enough. Avoiding people who love you leaves you handling too much alone. Very dangerous and unhealthy! Even adults need help in times like these.
You need comforting that words on a screen cannot offer you. You need the warmth of arms around you; and a shoulder to lean your head. I hope you have a good relationship with your father, siblings, or maybe you have a grandmother/grandfather you feel close to. You need to talk-out your feelings; and gain a understanding through older-adults who can not only advise you, but hold you to console you while you grieve.
Please talk to someone you trust and love, this is when you turn to family. People who don't know you can't give you the comfort that family and love brings. If you feel panic or anxiety, you should tell your father immediately. That's when you may need professional counseling or medical-attention.
God bless you and console you, my dear. May He bring you spiritual comfort beyond human ability or understanding.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2020): HiI am so sorry for your loss, I too have recently lost my Father. I believe wholeheartedly that he is somewhere just over the horizon (he believed in an afterlife) and I have such a strong faith that we are not mere mistakes in the universe, we are of a grand design by the hand of God and he promises us that we are eternal. Death, yes, even just the word is complex to understand and sounds so final and full of oblivion but I see death as passing over. When I went to collect my father's belongings and death certificate from the hospital ( my place of work) I could not bring myself to use the word 'death' so I said I was picking up my fathers passport into the next life. His pocket watch stopped at the time he passed over, over a previous couple of days in and out of consciousness, he had pointed to the ceiling to let us know he had seen something, and he said heaven was waiting. I also had a knock at the door that evening, nobody there, something that often happened in our family when there was a close death. I have also witnessed many patients reaching out into mid-air just before death, or telling me loved ones are gathered around their beds. Please look for inner faith, God's promise, Tarot cards won't give you this and for the vulnerable is dangerous if you are not a medium and understand about closing down and protecting yourself(a bit like a Luigi board) maybe.Inner faith or even science knowledge, in medicine many many doctors have studied the 'near-death experiences' because of the resuscitation patients who have spoken of heavenly places when clinically dead. Notable studies and research Dr Raymond R Moody, Dr. Kubler Ross, and many more. It's not evidence, it's not proof, it's not hocus pocus but it is scientific research.They never leave us and their love is always present, we just have to have faith, not fear.Please think about speaking to a bereavement counselor or GP about your roller-coaster emotions and anxiety. Have you posted on here a few months ago as well? Sending you a rainbow hug please stay at peace with the earthly world and feet firmly on the ground, put the tarot cards away until you are in a grounded place within yourself, astrology exchange for ASTRONOMY and faith is your own discovery.GB
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