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writes:Thank you to everyone who responded to my question here:http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-husband-is-storing-up-so-much-timber.htmlWith regard to Gina's answer, I did try to get him to sit down and talk, but he just stomped off, and went out and bought yet MORE timber and wire. He's started storing it in the spare room, and even in our 12-year-old son's bedroom which has a loft in it. I can't check with the store as Gina suggested, as he's bought them from multiple stores across various states. He seems to have done it piece by piece, rather than buying it all at once, judging by the date stamps on the receipts.Our sex life has also gone due to this "hobby" of his.He won't even spend time with me or the kids - all his time, apart from work, is dedicated to this.He doesn't seem to have had any impulsive spending sprees like this before.how can I deal with this?Adele
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (4 January 2009):
 Does he have any close friends or co-workers he seems to talk to? If so, call and see if they know.
It seems so very strange. The fact that he gets upset when you want to talk about it is a little scary too. You guys belong to a church? If so, maybe talk to your pastor/priest.
Do you feel safe around him? Do you feel your kids are safe around him? If not, go stay with a relative maybe? At least til he can talk about what in the world is up with all the timber & wire.
It is really odd behavior.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (4 January 2009):
 He sounds off his rocker to me. I'd separate and tell him he needs to get therapy immediately. You could probably benefit from some as well because it may be a long road ahead of you and you will need a strong coping mechanism for your sake as well as the kids. Good luck to you.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (4 January 2009):
I think you need to take firm action on this now.
Take the kids and move out. Tell him you won't come back until some of the wood is gone or you see some use for it.
You have to shock him into at least talking about it.
Good Luck!! xx
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