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writes:Hello People,Here i am 22 years and looking for a solution for my love life. Actually i am in a relationship past 10 months with a guy 28 years who was my boss. Now we don't work together. I used to like him previously when i was working with him at the initial time. But later on felt that something is there which was pushing me towards him and even he was getting into the relation with me a bit. And so i accepted his proposal. But one day accidently i found few of his personal pictures with his ex girl friends in his mail box. Then on i was out of mind. I just didnt want to leave or lose him, so i asked him about his past things to be cleared. He tells all about his girlfriends, and about the physical contacts with his past girls. I couldn't accept this and found that i was breaking up my self badly. He then makes me realize that now he has nothing doing with those girls and that they are out of his life now. But now it seems that he is not satisfied with me and looking for a change in his relationship. Nowadays he keeps hiding things about his personal life. I don't know why..? I had a problem with one of his friend actually, as she is also in love with him and always keeps on contacting him now-and-then, As he tells that its just friendship, but i feel it as unfair relationship. It really hurts me very much even when he also encourages her feelings towards him. I never told him to leave her friendship but i am very much in-secured seeing this. I just cant take it but at the same time i am unable to say him anything regarding this. Many times i told him that its better you leave me as i cant take it this way. Still i feel that he is only the correct person for me. Many times i tried to hurt myself badly,which made my emotions to be inside me only. Basically, I don't share my feelings to anyone and i don't have any friends in life also to whom i can share my feelings. This makes me feel very lonely. Even i cant share it with my family members also as they will be feeling more bad than me about that guy. Please help me and tell me what exactly can i do to come out of this problem and make my mind be stable. At the same time i don't want to loose him also. How do i tell him that i cant see any girl rolling around him and getting close to him.Please suggest what to do.
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reader, Ima FreAk!  +, writes (24 July 2011):
 Hiyaaaa,
Sounds like you really love him.
But at the same time it sounds like your really clingy. Your clinging on to him as if he is your life, and it shouldn't really be like that because he can take you for granted.
What would be a really good way is still be in a relationship with him but you HAVE to make friends. Honey you can't rely on him you gotta have some friends pleaseeeeeeeeeee!!!!!!! Honestly have some friends even if it's not guys have girl friends. Trust me it's not hard to make friends its all about smile, being friendly and laughs!
You'll be surprise that many people all around the world are in a similar situation as you so you can make friends easy I promise, I mean you joined this website! :D
Also if you really love him you should fight for him then, tell him that you love him soo much and that you don't wanna lose him and that you feel hurt whenever he lies or make up stories. Be honest with him and tell him exactly how you feel.
I know this is cliche but "if you love something set it free, if it comes back it's yours if it doesn't it was never meant to be" so use that as as guidance to see if your boyfriend really loves you because some people are insecure and find it difficult to express their feelings so honestly just tell him how you feel it will get a lot of your chest.
Hope my advice helps!
Good luck!
Lots of love,
Ima FreAk!
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