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writes:Hi! This isnt actually a " relationship " question, but I really need some help in regards to a boy I work with. Im 23 and work part time as a waitress. Anyways Im having some issues with him. Hes been stealing tips, my boss knows and says to keep an eyep on the cash tips. I work my tail off and still have to split tips in half even if I do all the work. I have caught him coming out of a dark bathroom- he was calling or txting and trying to be sneaky on more than one occassion. My boss knows this and keeps him around. I dont understand why and dont know how to deal with it. My husband and I have a family to raise and I work to help with bills as well as neccessities for the kids. He works and is finishing school to start a new job. My boss has told me countless times that he was going to get fired. But nothings changed. My boss also inbcreased my hours then the next week cut them because he came to work as well as a family member needed their job back. It doesnt help that its been slow. Me and another coworker have to work with this boy and we hate it, because we have to watch him. Im not getting paid to babysit a coworker and the fact thhat I have to watch him so he doesnt steal is appauling. I work very hard. Im very ethical and moral. Stealing and not working when you are getting paid to do so crosses a huge line in my book and if it were my company I would fire him. My question is how do I deal with this? What more can I do? Do I get a new job and quit? I really like the job but really cant keep working like this. Confronting my boss hasnt seemed to help. Does anyone have a solution? Thank you very much for reading sorry its so long.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (10 January 2013):
 Have you thought about looking for a job in a place with a better work environment? I'm know it's not easy to "just" get a new job, but it seems like your boss is NOT doing his job.
Have you talked to the kid? Told him that when he steals he takes things from YOUR family?
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (10 January 2013):
 IF there is someone - say, a busboy - who is STEALING your tips... then your BOSS needs to take that as seriously as if someone came in and took cash from the cash register.
IF, as you note, your boss is aware of this pilfering of tips.... and takes no action to STOP the theft... maybe by FIRING the perp... THEN you (and those others who are losing your tips to him) need to CONFRONT THE BOSS and tell him that HE (the boss) needs to make this right, NOW, (emphasis on NOW... pointing out that "retroactive" would also be appropriate!!!!)... or else YOU (that group) will let this be known to the proper authorities.... who will PROTECT you (the group) from both the individual who is stealing from you..... AND the boss, who is aware of the theft but doesn't protect your money.... (that actually makes him a "co-conspirator" in this theft....)
Incidentally, splitting tips is USUALLY a pooling of tips, with each participant being paid out in accordance with a pre-determined formula.... OR, wait staff gives the busboy 10% (NOT "half") of his/her tips....
Get up your courage and be the stalwart who starts the correction of this problem...
Good luck....
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (10 January 2013):
 does your boss have a boss you can go to? IF so I would say to your boss "look tim, I know you are aware of the issues with bill, and it's becoming a problem for me that you are not addressing the issue so I have to go above your head"
if not I would look for another job if possible.
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