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26-29,
*Diamondx
writes:My best friend is a guy[since I don't get along well with girls] and we've been hanging out a lot[not alone, with our other friends] but in my school and in his, people have been saying we're together.Since I already have a boyfriend,but he lives in another country[who everyone knows about] and my best friend just happens to be my boyfriend's friend too, it looks really bad! I look like a harlot! We never used to care what people said before, because people will always talk -_-But lately people have been calling me whore,slut, floozy etc. and him backstabber or things like that.And my boyfriend is hearing that we're together blah blah blah, and It's not helping our relationship one bit! We are really close[if you didn't know that we're just friends you'd think we're together but we correct everyone, and they still say we're together -_- It's not like we'd be making out or anything like that, but he opens doors for me and feeds me etc. once in a while, and I don't see anything wrong with that(opening doors-chivalry,I like to see that it's not dead (: ) I know we're just friends and he knows we're just friends] but I see him as just a friend, he's like my brother!So what can I do to convince people we're just friends or at least stop the name calling and stories?Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2010): Well people are really dumb and they just say stuff so they have something to gossip about when it's nothing. I get along with guys pretty good to and sometimes people would be like aww they are together and it's not true and I know it isn't. Just ignore that stuff you know hwats true and what is not and if you make a big deal out of something that isn't true then people will be like oh she is probably just hiding it and doesn't want to admit it. So go be yourself hang out with the guys and forget about people there is nothing wrong with being friends with guys:] Good luck babe!!
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reader, Abella  +, writes (7 December 2010):
 there is a beautiful saying that Oprah Winfrey said, which applies: ''what other people think of you is none of your business, that's their problem''. Now although I believe that, and it sounds great, I can still see that ignorant people in your area are making life difficult. Your boyfriend should show trust in you. If he loves and trusts you that should be the end of the problem. But i can see these ignorant people are still abusing you, which is wrong of these people. Hold
your head up high. You know the truth. I imagine they abuse the other guy too and that is horrible. This other guy is your honorary brother. A brother is your kin. A person you can trust and turn to for advice. These rude ignorant people abusing you are only trying to hurt you. Your honorary brother nows he has done nothing wrong, as do you. Some nasty people, if they think they can upset your equilibrium will keep on abusing. Do not respond to them. Hold your head high. Perhaps show this site to your boyfriend so he can understand the misery you have been put through. Do not respond to these nasty abusive people. You do not have to sink to their nasty level.
Do not allow yourself to be stressed.
Remember that as your honory brother he is Not the same as a boyfriend, who although he too is not kin - your boy friend is your best friend and the person you feel most affectionate towards, and you feel moved in your heart by him.
Whereas your feelings for an honorary
brother are more like family and you talk things over. It is a respectable relationship. It is wicked that dishonorable people would try to allege this is not the case.
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