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writes: Hi everyone, basically my bf has just told me he wants to spend xmas alone due to a rough childhood. This is our second xmas together and he told me that last yr was very hard and he hates this time of year due to bad experiences in his family at xmas. I don't want him feeling like this anymore and he should enjoy xmas. How can i be there for him and reassure him everthing is ok and xmas is a time to be with the people you love and be happy, not alone and sad. Please help!
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reader, babieegirL +, writes (14 December 2006):
 Hey There,
Personally, if I was in that situation, I wouldn't push it on him too hard. Over-coming bad experiences is a long and rough process. I do see where you are coming from though. Perhaps if you were to just let him know, and explain once more about how you feel about Christmas, with out pushing it on him, he could come around. Or, if he's still going to have the same thoughts about Christmas, plan a little date for the both of you. Have a christmas just for the two of you. Do things that you think he would like, to make it fun and all. Maybe then he'll come around and realize that dwelling on the past will hold him back from NeW experiences and enjoying the Holidays!
I hope this helps.
Happy Holidays & Good Luck*
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2006):
Maybe you need an alternative Christmas. Like a ski vacation.
Doing a traditional family thing just emphasises what he has been missing out on.
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