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writes:After I broke up with my ex, I discovered on my bank statement that he used my ATM card to withdrawal cash without my permission (he knew my pin cause I lost my ID and would send him to get beer/cigarettes sometimes). There are about 3 occasions where I do not recall asking him to take cashback on the transaction, and yet it's $20 more than it should've been. The clincher is a separate ATM machine transaction at a liquor store that occured RIGHT after the beer purchase, on a night I definitely did not ask him to do so. I've confronted him about that ATM incident and he denied it (big surprise). I originally dumped him for lying to me about texting his ex so obviously dude's a liar.My problem is I'm having a very hard time confronting him about it. He calls to shoot the breeze and all that ends up happening is I'm very cold and short with him. I cannot seem to bring myself to come out and accuse him AGAIN but I want him to know that I don't believe him, and to never contact me again unless it's to apologize. Anybody have any suggestions on how to just come out and say this? Should I just bite the bullet and call him up and come right out with it? Is texting him about it the coward's way out? I need closure!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2008): I would like to add that last night I did end up texting him about this. He actually confessed this time and blamed it on drug use and apologized a bunch of times, hoping we could be friends. I let him know in no uncertain terms that we will never be friends again and the only reason he should ever contact me again is to pay me back. I don't care if he does or not because I don't need the money as much as I need him out of my life. Thanks for the answers!
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (21 August 2008):
 I would let him know you know he's a theif and a liar, then have nothing more to do with him. Thats closure. You know he stole from you, he will lie til he's blue in the face, he's already done that. Thats not going to change.
Sounds like a lucky escape. Your instincts tell you he's a liar, stick with them and move on from him. He wont ever be happy all the while he is a lying idiot.
C xxx
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reader, lexilou +, writes (21 August 2008):
 You can ask him but whats the point? He is only going to lie. I know of a case here in uk where a woman's son stole money from her account, the police traced it back to him after £2000 went missing in a week from one account and £3000 from her visa card. They did nothing about it except caution him and told her she was liable for the money as she had given him her pin number, like you she occasionally asked him to get things for her. I would change your account numbers etc and get him out of your life and dont waste anymore time and effort on this guy x
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2008): Hi My best mate, His girlfriend of two years was stealing money our of his account by using his atm card started of 20 bucks here there turn into abit more he asked her if she had been withdrawing money of cause she said no. He then rang the bank told them the time said money had been gone missing and they tracked his card when,where, an what time the money was withdrawen and had photo shots of her he has now taken her to court to get 10 grand she stole over two year she has to pay it all back. Good luck hope this helps
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