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writes:right so this is gunna be very long i think hahaha but here goes! so basicly i get deppression (not very often at all) and i can feal down about anything petty and im on a bit of a downer at the moment, a girl i had a bit of a crush on (i think she had a crush on me aswell) to cut a long story short told me that she would sleep with me and wouldnt say no to me, so i asked her out right and said well do u fancy it then? (we both know each other, and have met on occasions and have what u might call a flirtastionship, so spare the lecture about respect and treating girls right and stuff!!! and for the record i would definitly consider a relationship with her :) ) so she said yes and gave me a time and date for us to meet at her house! great stuff??!! except she has been ignoring me since, this was about 3 weeks ago now since we last spoke, she never replys to anything a text or message on facebook! (not that i have been pestering her, but i have sent the jokingly "u still ignoring me ?" and "whats up with you?!" stuff like that) so at the pub with my mates i was depressed and had been drinking so i sent her a message basicly having a right go at her a lot of swearing, saying why the f**k u ingorning me ? you can tell me if u have problems, u just stick to your drugs. stuff like that and stll no reply!!!! yet she replys to my mates. im not botherd about the sex any more with her, i was just desperate for a reply of anykind just so i could speak to her again :( ! now i just want to forget about her and move on, but how do i do that? i seem to be obsessed with facebook seing if shes online still clutching at the chance she will reply ( wich i dont think will happen) how do i get her out of my head??!?! i know thers not a chance of us getting together and i just want to move on and completely forget about her, how do i do that? if u say meet other girls ive tried... and moving on to my next pronblem a girl gave me her number before we met in town... now what? ive text her after town asking how her night was and stuff but after an hour of texting she put a conversation killer "haha thanks :) " how the foook do i reply to that? does it meen she isnt interested in me? should i wait for her to text me?
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (1 July 2012):
Hi there. With the first girl who you casually had sex with and occasionally flirt with, there doesn't seem to be much going on there at the moment, does there?
She might just be wanting it to remain casual.
Don't text her anymore, as it serves no real purpose.
Just let her text you, if she is going to.
Otherwise, give her space. It sounds like she needs it.
And to avoid all the frustration of hoping to see she has left a message on Facebook for you - well then, just don't go on Facebook in the first place.
That way, you won't be bothered by it.
Out of sight and out of mind.
Keep yourself busy. See your friends and have fun.
At least then, it distracts you enough to stop thinking about that girl all the time, the way you do at the moment.
Now, regards the other girl you met while in town, just let her text you.
Don't send her anymore text messages for now.
And if you do really want to see her again, then why not just CALL her on her mobile?
Phone calls are always better than text messages, and a lot more personal as well.
Give her some space first - a week perhaps - and then if you still feel you want to see her again, well then call her.
And I DO mean "call" her - not text messaging.
And if you do decide to call her after 1 week, well when you do call, ask her if she would like to go out with you.
Perhaps you could ask her out for a coffee and cake.
Or, you could go for lunch to a local cafe.
The main thing is that if you are interested in her and would like to see her again, you need to call her and ask her out.
If all you ever do is text girls you like, it never gets to a point of knowing each other properly, and building some kind of real relationship.
It doesn't have the capacity to build that kind of rapport with another person.
Texting just doesn't have the scope for that.
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