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writes:Hi, I would like to ask all the kind agony aunts and uncles on how to improve communication with my boyfriend. He just seems so hung up on work. I understand that he will be busy during work, but what got me was that he seems to prefer anything else to me. For example, sometimes during his work he can find time to go onto Facebook and comment on some posts. However when I saw them it made me wonder why he can't use the same minuscule effort to give me a simple message to brighten up my day. I don't need him to SMS long mushy messages but just something short to show that he thinks of me will be nice.Also recently he always says that he's tired after work, which is why he never SMSes. I would have understood if it had simply been one or two days but 5 days? And the next day he never messages to make up for it. Admittedly these 2 days may be my fault as I was getting fed up and showed some temper when he wished me luck for my exam the next day (however his message was kind of cold which was also why I was pissed)Especially when I'll be going overseas to china for a short vacation soon and he's doing this, makes me think that he's not that affected by my presence either way. I'm wondering how guys feel about the whole deal about calling and texting? Is it really that unimportant to guys that they can go for days without contacting their girlfriends? I really do hope to get some objective views about this thanks!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (18 May 2011):
 You need to talk to your boyfriend about this. The whole point of communication is to tell him exactly how you are feeling. Taking it out on him through anger and a temper will only cause the both of you to fall out with each other.
So talk to him and tell him how you feel. Say you do not expect him to contact you all the time but that a small message here and there would be nice and that sometimes you just feel like he doesnt care about you anymore. Goodluck.
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