A
male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi. I am 19 and finished my first year at university. I always thought I was shy because I never talked to anyone, but now I realize that I am not shy - just boring...I have met a few good people at school this year that I am friendly with. The problem is i NEVER have anything to say to anyone. I now realize that its because I don;t know anything that interests me and I am not a fan of small talk. I hoped that going to university out of my home town and living in residence by myself I could figure out who I am, but I havent and am getting anxious. I would like to be able to communicate with my friends on a level other than just being in the same room as them watching tv and playing video games. what should i do? Thanks
View related questions:
shy, university, video games Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, OldTimer Soon +, writes (8 June 2011):
Excellent question .... been there. Then I starting seeking what interested ME. Discovered Sailing and that alone gave me an avenue of commonality with other "sailors."
I am an older guy with a huge accomplished Bucket List -- But I still seek something new and new folks to get around. Be active in your own future and you will never be boring.
Have a ball finding some new likes!
A
reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2011): Hey I understand you.I am guessing that in your life the creative side of your brain has not been very active. I have this situation a lot with my clients when I teach them how to communicate. I think if You knew the nuts and bolts behind communication you would find that usefull because that would be good for your right side of you brain.Im guessing that you tend to prefer facts instead of fiction and you prefer documentaries instead of fictional programms.To learn how to communicate you need to focus all your right brain interest and concentration on reading about it. watching soaps is good. Do you get british TV over there. Watch eastenders and coronation street. They are british soaps and you can analyse how people communicate in a everyday life situation.Also you need to buy some books on NLP Neuro Linguistic Programming. This is the science of communication and will teach you how to communicate very hypnoticly and you will find you will be able to make friends easily with that as you will be hypnotising them in effect.I know your type of personality and I think you need to lock your self in a library with the internet for a good 6 weeks and soak in loads of knowledge. Learn about new things that will fare well in normal conversations...... It might sound harsh but bitching about people is something most people do so learn how to do this in a humourous way lol.
...............................
|
